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Interracial Relationships

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I have always mentioned about different people I have met up with and how everyone has different beliefs and interests and so there are times when this is obvious to others and sometimes not acceptable. I have been in positions where people look at you weird or even if they know you feel its ok to tell you its not ok. In my head I have always been accepting of any kind of relationship as I’ve always believed that relationships and love have always come in many forms and so I would never feel that someone shouldn’t be together especially if they are happy.

Looking back at all my relationships I have always been with someone who was different from me in every single way as I don’t think looking for someone specifically the same as you is necessary as you might find someone you can make an amazing connection with just about anyone who may not be apart of your culture, religion or background. I think its important to keep an open heart when it comes to love in this way as you might miss out on something magic with someone you never thought you would end up with and someone you can share your own culture and background with as well as learn about theirs,

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Not So Sweet….When you are being taken advantage of

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What can I say I hear and read way too much about this sort of thing and it is not right at all but its something that exists and I do feel that’s its important to make these things known and not have them hidden. There are so many people out there whether they are people you know or people you hear about in the news who experience sexual assault and its just getting ridiculous how many people out there think its perfectly ok and how many people even choose to keep quiet about it.

People who are in positions with people they know whether its in a school environment, work environment or just out and about (or even your own home) its very difficult to know whether what’s happening is ok or not (As I am typing this I am sure people are getting confused by this but it will make sense in a minute) When you are around someone who you have to show respect for or in a position where you feel you need to be nice sometimes its hard to speak up for yourself without creating a scene or effecting things like jobs, education or even friendship. The mistake here is that you forget that you have self worth and respect for yourself and no one should feel its ok to disrespect you and you not do anything about it. Its not ok and its not right either. There are people that will help you and be understanding if you just tell someone and if possible tell the person themselves to back off and to stay away from you as it is unwanted attention. It isn’t necessary to swear or worry about coming off rude as you have every right to tell them exactly where to go as without your consent they should not be invading your personal space.

There is another thing that is why people keep quiet sometimes its not because of losing a job or anything like that sometimes its gaining a reputation or having friends judge you or disrespect you. This is something that confuses me a lot. If you are a victim in this what name will you gain when the person who is wrong is the one abusing you. This is another reason to speak up, if you don’t the other person will, they will tell people that it was you and they will make  the whole thing look like they didn’t do anything wrong at all and that you are just one of “those types” of people, whether you are male or female it can turn on you both so don’t think that you are ok either way. Speak up and make yourself heard and don’t feel ashamed when you aren’t wrong. Please be careful and look after yourself and make sure that people aren’t overstepping the mark

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Views on intimacy

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BE WARNED I HAVE ALOT OF LINKS TO SHARE WITH YOU. PLEASE CLICK IF YOU FEEL THEY ARE USEFUL 😀

https://thesweetestpartsoflove.wordpress.com/2015/09/22/are-you-ready-for-love-making-your-first-time

https://thesweetestpartsoflove.wordpress.com/2016/12/27/respect-yourself-and-you-will-be-respected-in-turn

https://thesweetestpartsoflove.wordpress.com/2016/12/13/practice-makes-perfect-part-2-intimacy 

https://thesweetestpartsoflove.wordpress.com/2017/02/07/bonding

Intimacy is one of those things people will always look at differently and I feel that its important to establish the fact that not all views are the right way for everyone. Lots of people prefer things certain way, some people like others to be very affectionate and loving towards them and some people will prefer things to be slightly rougher and for someone else to kind of “take charge” but its better to work out what you like. The links above I feel maybe useful with this particular subject although they don’t really touch this exact subject. There are people very new to this subject that think being a certain way and adopting certain mannerisms is what other people like and automatically assume that’s how they should do things, but this isn’t right and most likely will effect your future relationships. There is also a very important thing to remember and that is to be the way you are and do things the way you like and think of others and not to assume you know. It makes things better for all. Also realising that the use of TV shows, films or even books as examples, does not reflect real life, The way its portrayed  is not always the way real love and affection is shown and its definitely something to take into consideration.

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Songs Of Love: No matter what- Gonna Get Better

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I was going through some songs I had in my playlists on YouTube and I found this one and it just seemed kind of sweet in a way so here it is for you.

This song is by Fifth Harmony and from the last album they did as a group of five. The song is called Gonna get better. I think there is another version of this song but I liked this one. 

Please click the link to listen to the song:https://youtu.be/0D9TDch5ve0

This song definitely seems to be about reassurance in the fact that no matter what anyone else seems to have or the insecurities that you cant give enough to someone they still want you and only you whether it looks like there is temptation in having more the satisfaction is in just having you.

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Friend Zoned

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Hmm I really think this one is a strange one but a random conversation brought this up and I actually don’t view it as something I am doing. If you think back to a couple of months ago I was dating using an online dating website and obviously not all of those dates became something and not all of those dates disappeared altogether.

 When I signed up to the dating site I obviously was looking to date someone in spite of not going in that direction and sticking with them I found myself finding a friendship to be a lot better to have with some of them instead. I have made some friends that I still have today and I don’t view keeping these guys as a bad thing, as they are quite happy to be friends with me and we are able to bond over the dating situation they have experienced and what I have been experiencing too. We are able to help each other and talk about things openly and I think that its a good thing to come out of a spark-less date you’ve had with someone. At one point I’m sure we did have an attraction of some sort towards each other which resulted in us wanting to meet on a date but at the end of it we mutually accepted to part ways altogether or part ways and enter a friendship especially if we have made a good connection it seems a waste to end things just because we aren’t dating each other. I am sure people have their own views on this “Friend zoning ” thing but this is my one. If I can make a friend then I will do so but if its awkward or uncomfortable and it makes sense to lose all contact then I will do so.

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Long Distance :0(

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I may or may not have mentioned that me and the Long haired one are long distant at the moment due to certain circumstances. I for one have never experience this kind of relationship before and to be honest I am finding it really hard to deal with. I have a previous post about how I was feeling. Please click link to read post:https://thesweetestpartsoflove.wordpress.com/2017/10/24/feeling-vulnerable

Long distance relationships are one of those things that when you have feel the struggle and sadness of being apart for so long you start to wonder whether this relationship is even worth all this. There are many people around that live much closer who you could actually spend time with and see often and not have to worry about if and when you will see each other soon and many people wont understand this…. I was one of them. Looking back to when I was younger back in the days when I was trying to make friends online I met people who lived on the other side of the UK or even the other side of the world and even though I was in a place to get caught up in conversation I did realise that when It came to it having someone who lived closer meant more to me. I cant remember if I ever mentioned this but before I had my first boyfriend I was talking to a guy that lived in America and he seemed to really like me and I think I was more in a place of infatuation so when my friend decided to change our relationship I decided that I was going to date him instead of the American guy because I wanted a boyfriend id actually be able to see and hold more then once a year and to be fair I’m sure that what we all want deep down. When it came to online dating with a dating website I was trying to find people that lived closer as living over an hour train ride was just too much for me even though the people I talked to seemed really nice I just wasn’t sure bout the distance.

Fast forward to where I am now I wont say long distance is a relationship you have because that’s what  you want or look for but if it comes to it and you meet someone you think is absolute magic then why not at least attempt to make something special out of it. As we get older we lose people that were once special and close to us a little bit or all together and meeting new people can be difficult and once we make that special connection distance should be no obstacle especially if you can handle it.

 The Long Haired One I see something special in and I want to see if we can make this work until its possible to have a relationship where we live closer to each other again. At this time we are trying to aim for a more once a month meet and at least a phone call or video call a day with random messages throughout to keep us going obviously its not the same but its as close as we are gonna get right now and sad as it is we look towards a brighter future for us both.

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Feeling Vulnerable

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Hmmm… this is kind of strange. I didn’t think I would end up feeling this way again but here I am. As mentioned before my relationship with my Special Someone has ended and I have managed to move on with the Long Haired One but I didn’t think I would end up having these awkward feelings again. Being with the Special Someone I remember at the beginning I did suffer from a bit of clinginess and vulnerability and it caused some issues in the relationship and we ended up having a lot of serious discussions and after that I thought I had resolved everything and wouldn’t be like this again… turns out I was wrong.

The Long Haired One and I have been slowly getting through our relationship, taking our time to get to know each other properly but there are certain things that seemed to make me feel uneasy. One thing I can say about the Long Haired One is that I feel I can trust him and there is nothing in him that seems like he will wrong me but I do feel quite vulnerable and I do feel the need to talk and be around him often even when it is not possible. I don’t like being apart from him and I constantly feel the need to be with him and it makes no sense. I try to keep myself occupied with other things in my life but at the end of the day the missing him part just becomes more vivid and it just makes me feel quite sad and lonely. I have wondered why if I am able to trust him do I feel these strange feelings and if they will go away as in the back of my mind I know he wont leave me or cheat me but the front feels slightly vulnerable et that something bad could happen. I don’t know if any of this makes sense but this is kind of what is going through my mind at the moment.

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