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First Formal Event

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Me and my Sweet One work together and a girl from work had invited us both to her wedding reception. As a couple this would be our first formal event together as we previously were invited to an informal event with work people.

When it got closer to this event we had to pick out something to wear. Most formal events aside from prom I have always worn Indian outfits as that is what I am used to but decided to wear a dress on this occasion. It was a nightmare! I ordered so many dresses and they just didn’t fit right but finally I found one! 😀 Blue and sparkly and had pockets… for some reason. My Sweet One we went out together to go pick a shirt for and we found one along with a tie that matched my outfit (I know its bit too cutesy but we wanted to match :D:D)   

The day of the reception we drove up to the place and headed in and it was a very pretty outdoor indoor set up with a small BBQ and a bar with the cake ready to be cut indoors. There was some cute favours and sweets around the room and there was pretty lights around once it got darker. We sat down and had bit of food and eventually more of our colleagues showed up. After the cake cutting and food they played some music and for some reason I was in the mood to dance so I took my Sweet One and had a nice little time together until it was time to leave 😀

I am not very good at social events but since the girl from work had been nice enough to invite us I didn’t want to be rude and refuse and besides you don’t know what could happen 😀

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First Holiday! Part Two

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Took bit of time out from this but I am back from my holiday :D:D

I did already discuss about going away with my Sweet One in a previous blog. Please click the link below to read my First Holiday blog:

  https://thesweetestpartsoflove.wordpress.com/2018/05/08/holiday/

I have never gone on holiday with an other half before but as a first of possibly many many more holidays to come it wasn’t half bad :D. Me and My Sweet One went to Greece for a week and to be honest I think that was just bout right as we enjoyed ourselves, had the freedom to do what we felt like doing and had no problems with one another.

When we decided to go on this holiday we didn’t want to plan too much about what we were going to do while we were there or anything. We just wanted a relaxing holiday with the freedom to do things according to our mood. We could spend time at the beach, walk round the different tourist shops, go on an excursion, spend the evening at the hotel or see the evening entertainment if or when we wanted with no restrictions or stress as the main point of this was to spend time together.

Sharing a room and being together from morning until bedtime was something we did wonder about having never spent a full day along with spending the night at the same time but given the novelty of it we made the most of it, cuddling up when going to sleep, brushing our teeth together in the morning and even laying out on the bed like starfishes sweating from the extreme heat !

While we there we managed to book ourselves up for a tour and a turtle cruise which we really enjoyed. The tour included a small boat ride and the cruise had us swimming in the sea. On the days we hadn’t planned anything we did a long walk to explore the area, did a round of mini golf, walked on the beach, did a bit of swimming and ate lots of food at meal times! 

 We get on really well together and the fact that we could spend all day with each and not have to say goodbye at the end of it…. well we Loved every minute of it! The entire time we were there we held hands wherever we went, gave each other random hugs and kisses and shared our appreciation for one another even including small romantic things too 😀

The particular island of Greece we went to was very pretty and we enjoyed the blue waters and sunshine everyday and as a first boyfriend girlfriend holiday together all I can say is “when can we do this again?”…..:D  

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First Holiday!!!

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I mentioned in one of my other posts that I would be going on holiday. What I didn’t mention that this would be my first holiday without my family. Growing up I had a group of friends and when we had some savings aside and felt old enough we decided to plan to go away together but since there was so many of us it was difficult to even plan anything as everyone wanted something different and we just couldn’t agree so ended up doing nothing. Getting into relationships especially my long term one I expected to go away at some point together but he just never seemed interested and kept telling me to do things with other people. My family had their own plans with relationships, my siblings went with their friends or other halves and my parents did a random 4-5 days here and there over the year. Due to all the above I have not been away for bout 8years and I mean a flight holiday not the coach and train days trips and weekends I randomly do.

Since me and my Sweet One have been together a  few months now we haven’t really properly had time alone away from people at work or families at home and since we met during the winter time we never had a chance to really go many places but since the weather is heating up we have decided to book our first holiday together. Since neither of us have gone away in a relationship we decided to do no longer then a week just in case. I really doubt we will have any problems being together all day everyday but its a precaution and even though we are both looking forward to it we want to make sure we plan things in such away that we have no problems and can freely enjoy our time together.

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Random conversation- Swimsuit VS Bikini

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Thinking about the holidays I did get myself a swimsuit and no I didn’t opt for the bikini I’m not comfortable in it and I don’t think it will flatter me, in spite of people saying given how skinny I am I could wear anything and not worry. Knowing my body and what would roughly suit me and hide certain things I’m not happy about I disagree with those comments and kept the one piece swimsuit I had, which I might add I look pretty good in ;0)

Talking to the Sweet One he said I’d look nice in a bikini and said he would like to see me wear one day when I showed him what I was going to take with me on holiday(more on this later). I told him that fair enough I put one on for him so he can see me in a bikini but he won’t be the only one seeing me in. He asked me who else I would be showing it too but I replied that when we go to the pool and beach together other people will see me and even other men would look at me and I asked him if he really wanted other people to see me that way. Funny enough and slightly surprisingly enough he said he didn’t want other people looking at me. I thought he would reply with something like “I want everyone to see my girlfriend and how pretty she looks in it and that she is mine” but I guess he realised something, I thought the whole conversation was quite odd. Either way whether he wants to see me in a bikini or not it would be my choice in what I want to wear and I’m going to stick with my colourful, flattering one piece which I know I’m going to feel comfortable on my holiday in and enjoy it too besides the Sweet One already agrees I look nice in it so its only going to encourage me to wear it more 😀

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Views on intimacy

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BE WARNED I HAVE ALOT OF LINKS TO SHARE WITH YOU. PLEASE CLICK IF YOU FEEL THEY ARE USEFUL 😀

https://thesweetestpartsoflove.wordpress.com/2015/09/22/are-you-ready-for-love-making-your-first-time

https://thesweetestpartsoflove.wordpress.com/2016/12/27/respect-yourself-and-you-will-be-respected-in-turn

https://thesweetestpartsoflove.wordpress.com/2016/12/13/practice-makes-perfect-part-2-intimacy 

https://thesweetestpartsoflove.wordpress.com/2017/02/07/bonding

Intimacy is one of those things people will always look at differently and I feel that its important to establish the fact that not all views are the right way for everyone. Lots of people prefer things certain way, some people like others to be very affectionate and loving towards them and some people will prefer things to be slightly rougher and for someone else to kind of “take charge” but its better to work out what you like. The links above I feel maybe useful with this particular subject although they don’t really touch this exact subject. There are people very new to this subject that think being a certain way and adopting certain mannerisms is what other people like and automatically assume that’s how they should do things, but this isn’t right and most likely will effect your future relationships. There is also a very important thing to remember and that is to be the way you are and do things the way you like and think of others and not to assume you know. It makes things better for all. Also realising that the use of TV shows, films or even books as examples, does not reflect real life, The way its portrayed  is not always the way real love and affection is shown and its definitely something to take into consideration.

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Friend Zoned

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Hmm I really think this one is a strange one but a random conversation brought this up and I actually don’t view it as something I am doing. If you think back to a couple of months ago I was dating using an online dating website and obviously not all of those dates became something and not all of those dates disappeared altogether.

 When I signed up to the dating site I obviously was looking to date someone in spite of not going in that direction and sticking with them I found myself finding a friendship to be a lot better to have with some of them instead. I have made some friends that I still have today and I don’t view keeping these guys as a bad thing, as they are quite happy to be friends with me and we are able to bond over the dating situation they have experienced and what I have been experiencing too. We are able to help each other and talk about things openly and I think that its a good thing to come out of a spark-less date you’ve had with someone. At one point I’m sure we did have an attraction of some sort towards each other which resulted in us wanting to meet on a date but at the end of it we mutually accepted to part ways altogether or part ways and enter a friendship especially if we have made a good connection it seems a waste to end things just because we aren’t dating each other. I am sure people have their own views on this “Friend zoning ” thing but this is my one. If I can make a friend then I will do so but if its awkward or uncomfortable and it makes sense to lose all contact then I will do so.

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Meet the Parents/Family

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Well (I always seem to start this way) I think this is something I haven’t really mentioned or if I have maybe I have forgotten but its something that has happened recently so maybe talk now 😀

Also don’t think I’m putting a pride of lions picture because families are scary and its symbolic I just couldn’t find a picture I wanted to use although it this picture fits in with this post for then its all good 😀

Meeting the family is a big thing in any relationship but sometimes it takes a more casual role depending on how you look at it, the family you are seeing or sometimes how old you are or the type of relationship you are in.

I remember meeting my first boyfriend’s mum, It was just her as I he didn’t have many family members. I never really got to talk to her much but she did know me from my calling the house. I saw her maybe two or three times in passing. The very first time I met her I guess I didn’t really think much of it, as I normally see my friends parents when I visit their house and I kind of viewed it the same way, as we were already friends but I never met his mum the first time I went to his house, I met her when we had our “first date” at  his house. When we did get together I don’t think his mum knew who I was. She seemed quite nice but  I was told she wasn’t but I cant really judge from the times I met her. 

My second boyfriend’s mum (I did not meet his sister or his dad) I met twice and then once or twice when we weren’t in the relationship. First time meeting her was very quick and kind of awkward as her partner was there and he didn’t really like people being around her (he wasn’t a well person so had some issues with certain things) We were out posting leaflets in the area and stopped at his mums place so had quick introductions. Officially meeting her when she invited me for tea it was quite nice and I had no problems and I think she liked me. Again boyfriend wasn’t too sure about how our meeting would go based on previous ex’s (I did well :0P).

My current boyfriend (The Long Haired One :D) I had a slightly unplanned meet the parents (yep this time round I met both mum and dad and the furry siblings too) when I was meeting my boyfriend at his temporary living arrangement at his parents place and so meeting his parents was unavoidable at 2months in to our relationship. I stayed with them for the weekend and I was very welcomed and I think they liked having me around. Again I wasn’t too worried about anything there was no stress I just somehow got on with them.

I’m sure meeting the parents or their family could be a little daunting but I guess its all in your head and how you take it, In my situation meeting their family wasn’t too bad I somehow got through it all ok. The slightly scarier time for me would be the meet MY family bit as even at the ripe old age of 29 I never ever brought a boyfriend home. I always wanted to make sure I knew the person properly or long enough, it was the perfect time as in the relationship and the stuff with family was all good. I wanted to be more prepared in how to go about it and many many other things and so things always kept coming up and it just kept getting pushed back and back. This time I’m going to do it. When and how I have no idea but if you would like to share your comments below it would be very useful.  

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