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Long Distance :0(

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I may or may not have mentioned that me and the Long haired one are long distant at the moment due to certain circumstances. I for one have never experience this kind of relationship before and to be honest I am finding it really hard to deal with. I have a previous post about how I was feeling. Please click link to read post:https://thesweetestpartsoflove.wordpress.com/2017/10/24/feeling-vulnerable

Long distance relationships are one of those things that when you have feel the struggle and sadness of being apart for so long you start to wonder whether this relationship is even worth all this. There are many people around that live much closer who you could actually spend time with and see often and not have to worry about if and when you will see each other soon and many people wont understand this…. I was one of them. Looking back to when¬†I was younger back in the days when I was trying to make friends online I met people who lived on the other side of the UK or even the other side of the world and even though I was in a place to get caught up in conversation I did realise that when It came to it having someone who lived closer meant more to me. I cant remember if I ever mentioned this but before I had my first boyfriend I was talking to a guy that lived in America and he seemed to really like me and I think I was more in a place of infatuation so when my friend decided to change our relationship I decided that I was going to date him instead of the American guy because I wanted a boyfriend id actually be able to see and hold more then once a year and to be fair I’m sure that what we all want deep down. When it came to online dating with a dating website I was trying to find people that lived closer¬†as living over an hour train ride was just too much for me even though the people I talked to seemed really nice I just wasn’t sure bout the distance.

Fast forward to where I am now I wont say long distance is a relationship you have because that’s what¬† you want or look for but if it comes to it and you meet someone you think is absolute magic then why not at least attempt to make something special out of it. As we get older we lose people that were once special and close to us a little bit or all together and meeting new people can be difficult and once we make that special connection distance should be no obstacle especially if you can handle it.

 The Long Haired One I see something special in and I want to see if we can make this work until its possible to have a relationship where we live closer to each other again. At this time we are trying to aim for a more once a month meet and at least a phone call or video call a day with random messages throughout to keep us going obviously its not the same but its as close as we are gonna get right now and sad as it is we look towards a brighter future for us both.

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Songs Of Love: Real Love- True Love

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This is a song I had heard many times and I feel that it perfectly reflects the sort of Love pretty much every relationship experiences realistically. This is Pinks True Love song.

To listen to this song and watch the adorable video with her little girl please click the link:  https://youtu.be/zsmUOdmm02A

There comes a time in every relationship when you love someone enough to be with them but wonder why you stick around even when they drive you crazy. This song¬†I really enjoy listening¬†to and¬†that’s pretty much all there is to it ;0P¬†

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Special Someone and Online Dating Experience

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This is a very new experience for me and I honestly don’t know how I am going to deal with this but I am determined to at least try. I have mentioned that My Special Someone and I are no longer together¬†in a previous post and I¬†am now dating the Long Haired One. I also¬†may not have mentioned that the Special Someone and I are now Friends only and so I continue to meet with him and spend time with the Furry Princess as well once a week to catch up and we have stopped the phone calls.

When I was completely single things were fine and Special Someone’s behaviour had not changed towards me but¬† when I started my online journey I didn’t want to hide things. Regardless of our previous relationship we are friends and I want to keep an open and honest friendship if possible, so I mentioned my profile on a dating site and asked if he wanted to be kept in the loop or be kept out of everything. He chose to not know so I never mentioned who I had gone out with and what happened, I just used to say I went out wherever I did and he never questioned who I went with. I don’t want complications, he is aware of my dating and the rest he does not need to know regardless of our past and our present friendship, the rest isn’t his business anymore, as harsh as it sounds but its a reality I try to accept.

Many people I have spoken to friends, colleagues and even the new friends I made on the dating site have had mixed reviews on the fact that I am friends and meet on a regular basis with an ex. Majority have expressed their concerns but try to be supportive and a few have expressed their disagreement and feel I should cut my ex loose. In spite of everyone’s opinions I have stuck to what I feel and that is with an open and honest friendship. I can make being friends with my ex work and we will continue to be friends as long as its working for us both. The day it doesn’t… well I guess we will have to talk about it and find a way around things and if we cant sort anything we may have to go our¬†separate ways. My Special Someone and I have been a big part of each others lives, 6years worth of relationship plus almost a¬†year of friendship and the fact that we are parents to a very special Furry baby has made us almost¬†a family and I cant imagine life with out them. I know its not ideal and it will bring complications but as far as I know the Long Haired One is ok with my friendship and trusts me enough to be comfortable and as he said if its not romantic he has no problem with it and I agree especially as he can trust in me I know I can trust in him too. Trust after all is the foundation to any relationship, without it everything crumbles…

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Follow up on the Date For The Family Post

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I don’t know if you have been reading my blog posts for awhile or reading first time but either way I just wanted to talk about something from a previous post that I may need to elaborate on a bit so for that please click the link below:

https://thesweetestpartsoflove.wordpress.com/2017/04/25/a-date-for-the-family

Well as I have mentioned before I had accepted dates from people, spoken to people and accepted friendships from a few that I have met on a dating website. I may not have mentioned but aside from a Bengali guy from about ten years ago I randomly met once, I have not gone out with Asian guys. I’m not entirely sure of how that happens but I seemed to get more interest from¬†guys who aren’t Indian, somehow I’m just not their cup of tea(or chai shall we say :0p). Anyway I actually got a message from someone who was Indian and like the nice person I am (yeah I said that bout me :D) I replied and spoke to him. I don’t think I was attracted to him or anything but as I was speaking to him as a friend he found out that I hadn’t gone out with an Indian guy, so wanted to meet for that very¬†reason of being the first one to go out with me. ¬†

Thinking back to conversations I have had with my parents about things¬†I know they want me to be settled down¬†pretty soon¬†as in case you didn’t know I am now¬†29years old and for some its that age of thinking about marriage. My parents have asked a few times if there was someone in my life or if I wanted them to find someone for me. When I was in a relationship it just never seemed like the right time to discuss meeting the parents so I told them there wasn’t anyone and that I didn’t want to get married. They then decided that I was in a relationship but wasn’t telling them so asked me to invite them round but at this time I was single. My mum kept saying she would find someone “nice” for me and I could¬†get married to them, I knew she was being jokey but deep down I know that they want all their children to be settled and happy.

There was a time when I hadn’t met my Special Someone and it was after my First boyfriend when I had met up with someone and I thought I would tell my mum straight away (if you didn’t know my first relationship was only 49days long and I never got the chance to think about talking about him to the family)¬†and she was in the hospital at the time and the guy I met with was Italian. She told me to bring a nice Indian boy home. I wasn’t sure if this was what my mum really wanted or was she just under a lot of medication still. My family aren’t racist or prejudice against anyone but I guess when it comes to their own children maybe deep down they want to hold on to what little tradition and culture we have and that may come in to marrying someone with the same background as you.

The reason I accepted to meet the Indian boy off the dating site was for that reason alone. My family. I had two “white” boyfriends and I had dated people outside of my culture but meeting that boy was a mistake as I didn’t do it for me. When it comes to dating, relationships and even love I think its important to realise that the only one to make¬†the decisions is¬†you and you alone. Your family and friends will have their opinions but if your aren’t happy and you don’t have a connection with someone it cant be forced and you cant keep everyone happy. If the people that care about you truly care for you they will learn to realise that your happiness is important and will be happy for you. That’s something I learnt and I feel happy where I am with the Long Haired One because we connect and enjoy each others company and that can never be faked.

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Full House- Thai Drama

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This is the second Thai drama I have watched and it has the same two actors as the previous one I watched which was in my last blog. This drama came out in 2014 which is before they made Kiss me.

In this story Mike and Aom-am end up having to live together in what was originally Aom-am’s family home after Aom-am sister sells the house to Mike to pay off a loan. Mike does not want Aom-am there but needs someone to care for the house so sets up a contract to have her cook and clean for him in exchange for staying there until she sells her script.

Mike- is a celebrity but is struggling to keep his status when he decides to concentrate only on his music. He has a “girlfriend” Mintra who does not seem that interested. He is very specific about his diet and likes to be healthy.

Aom-am- is a script writer and has yet to sell her first script, she is also a food critic and enjoys taking pictures and eating different cuisines. She is very sentimental towards her house (Full House) as she had a very close relationship to her father.

Guy- is a childhood friend of Mikes. He seems to be a very caring man and is also friends with Mintra who he has known since he was little. Guy meets Aom-am in Korea and falls for her. He also helps out with her script.

Mintra- is a boutique owner and seems to like Guy more then she likes Mike but at the same time she seems to just like having male attention. She does not seem to understand Mike’s feelings until she loses his attention to Aom- am.¬†

I really like this drama¬†as¬†both actors are really funny and there are a lot of complications that will keep you wanting to see more. I don’t think it tops Kiss Me the drama¬†I watched from the previous blog but it is very close. There is a lot of emotional points in this drama.

Please click the link below to watch the first episode of this drama:

https://youtu.be/QYPJQ0vWly0

There is also the theme song sung by both the actors, please click below:

https://youtu.be/bROgGky3QQ4

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Kiss Me -Thai Drama

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I have never watched a Thai drama before but this one looked too cute to pass up on and¬†it has my favourite actress¬† Sucharat “Aom” Manaying. My first Thai Drama!! and you know what I loved it! ūüėÄ

I did not know this until I looked this up but apparently this is the thai version of a manga called Itazura na kiss. This actually came out in 2015 and is only 20episodes which are just under an hour long.

The basic story is about Tenten and Taliw and their very odd but incredibly sweet relationship which had begun when they were born on the same day and grew up together, until Tenten and his family moved away to Japan. Taliw and Tenten are reunited at the start of school term where Taliw immediately falls for him and Tenten keeps his distance until he realises that Taliw is the very same girl he intended to marry as a child.

Tenten- is a very smart (200 IQ) serious and slightly emotionless guy who keeps to himself. Tenten seems to care for Taliw but at the same time he can be quite evil towards her. 

Taliw- is a sweet, cute but slightly dumb girl. She has a few close friends (Yuye, Paew and Arm) at school including a guy called King who helps at her dads restaurant. She falls for Tenten the very first day she sees him.

King- is a very nice and caring guy who has very good culinary skills. He likes Taliw more then a friend but does not seem to be able to tell her until he has to fight for her attention when he finds out she likes Tenten.

Namkang- is a very smart, tall and pretty girl who like Taliw seems to have fallen for Tenten and tries to win his attention by showing up at his school and going to the same college.

I really enjoyed this drama!!

Mike and Aom have really good chemistry and they both look adorable. Mike is too cute in white hair and Aom looks incredibly sweet in pig tails- what more  could you want?! ;0) The entire drama will have you wanting to keep watching with anticipation as it has some emotional, sweet and funny moments that will keep you on the edge of your seat. Highly recommend whether you know the original story or not.

To watch this drama please click the link below for the first episode:

https://youtu.be/peOyVqNqO8s

There is also a theme song sung by both actors, please click the link below to listen:

https://youtu.be/2v9j93swakg

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My Date with the Irishman and a Climbing man AKA Random guy

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Well I got to my date and it wasn’t as nerve racking as I thought it would be as we had talked so much over the past week that it felt like I knew who I was meeting from such a long time ago. Just goes to show¬† length of time means nothing sometimes. Only thing I didn’t know was what he would really look like. The photos he showed me were slightly different in each making me wonder what was an angle that was an illusion and what was real. In the flesh I wouldn’t particularly say he was good looking or bad looking but he was someone I couldn’t really place on my attraction radar. I enjoyed talking to him on the phone and via messages and in person there was no difference I just felt that he was a bit too outspoken and had no sense of tact which made me feel kind of uncomfortable but I had fun. We walked got some dinner and hung around a bit. After meeting we messaged and had a phone call and he seemed to think that continuous meeting was the way forward to get to know someone where as I was looking for a spark so wasn’t too sure what to do. I did discuss this with him and he told me to think about it. I decided one more meet couldn’t hurt but unfortunately due to a misunderstanding and taking a bit of offense to what I said we aren’t speaking anymore and won’t be meeting up so maybe it wasn’t meant to be. But then again if there is no attraction maybe dating wasn’t what we were supposed to have.

There was someone I have been speaking to for quite some time (if you remember from my Another update blog post-¬†https://thesweetestpartsoflove.wordpress.com/2017/05/23/another-update/¬†I called him the Random guy) and for some reason we just didn’t manage to have a meet up, so have organised to meet and will see what happens with him. I will update ! ;0)

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