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Relationships you want: Instructor Dojo and Iku Kasahara

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I started reading my first ever manga series and its called Library Wars and I enjoyed reading bout the main two characters.

What they do for each other

Dojo helps Kasahara by abusing his position to stop her favourite book from being confiscated by the MBC

Kasahara saves Dojo inspite of his orders when he gets shot

Dojo repeatedly comes to Kasaharas rescue

Kasahara takes Dojo to get some camomile tea as hehas not had it before

Dojo tries to keep Kasahara’s parents from finding out what her job is

 

What their relationship includes

Fights

Arguments

“Dream Prince”

Love

Overall this relationship shows

Love appears in the most random places

It is possible to forgot the face pf someone you really like and look up to

it is possible to turn Hate to Love

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The Thoughts of Disappointments

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I decided to share something else today and its more to do with my feelings of right now. I have explained in past posts about a new development in my Love life which is the Sweet One (although lately I’ve been thinking of him as the Sweet but Crazy One :0P) and how this relationship is slightly different to the others I’ve had. In this relationship my Sweet One is the one experiencing the new shiny stuff of relationships and I can see his eyes wide like a magpies at this rate and I just have these odd feelings I will fail as a girlfriend and a future life partner. I know that he will always be understanding to my craziness but it does not mean that my feelings that I could be a great disappointment to him ,of what Love and relationships are will disappear and it horrifies me that I could be the cause of his faith and trust as well as belief being damaged. In past relationships I have always made jokes about how I am “The Best Girlfriend Ever!” knowing full well I could never say it and mean it or even think it could be remotely true as the confidence in myself is lacking and it makes me wonder how I can be in a relationship at all.

Expectations and disappointments have a tendency to end up hand in hand sometimes and it jus makes you not want to get too hopeful or excited of what the future holds and in my case its this relationship. I really like the Sweet One and I know he could be good to me but I just cant bring my to expect too much from him and I know there must be expectations on his side but he will never say and I feel I should really know what they are so as not to be too much of a disappointment to him. I want to be a good girlfriend and hopefully a great future life partner where I can fill his life with happiness but there’s this little feeling in the back of my head that just feels I will never achieve that.  

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Songs of Love: Real Love- Say Love

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I cant believe I only just found this song but it just seems to be something I want to replay over and over lately.

This song is called “Say Love” by JoJo Levesque or JoJo as she is more commonly known. This is part of the Tringle album III

Please click the link to listen to the song and watch the music video:https://youtu.be/bwrJWV3MVMU

This song is very emotional and JoJo voice is amazing singing it as her voice really captures the feelings.  This song will make you feel the vulnerability of putting yourself out there in a relationship and have the same returned to you such as the word “Love”. Wanting to hear your significant other say the word back to you and wanting to know you are in the same place. I know it isn’t particularly a happy song that everyone would enjoy but the fact that she can express these emotions in such an incredible way just makes you appreciate it all the more.

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Smarter Other Half

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This is something that has happened a couple of times and I do feel pretty dumb literally pretty dumb when a guy I have been in a relationship with or dated for a little while is so much smarter then I am. I wouldn’t say I’m stupid but there have been times when big words have been used or certain interests or discussions have come up and I haven’t got a clue. Very embarrassing.

Thinking back to when I was younger I was one of those people who looked liked they could be really brainy but deep down wasn’t very academic so who it was always awkward when people would want help. There were times when I knew what was going on and could offer my help but other times I just had no idea bout anything, As I got older I tried to get more interests and meet more people and have more meaningful conversations but there was always someone who had that much more knowledge then me that was enough for me to feel intimidated.

When it comes to dating someone you don’t want to be made stupid in anyway you want to be able to show something of yourself for your own self respect and self worth but there are times when you may not feel like that when it feels like someone is showing you up. With the Long Haired One he was really smart and had knowledge about lots of different things and during our conversations I found myself having to look up what he meant to make sense of things but I did end up telling him the truth bout how I felt, He was quite understanding and told me not to feel inadequate in comparison to him and that it did not effect our relationship. 

Something I guess I could say is that you should never feel ashamed that you aren’t smart enough, as everyone has different wisdom and interests in life and so you should never compare yourself to your other half.  Your other half could seem smart in one way but may lack knowledge in something that you know all about. Always know that you are a unique and wise in your own way and your other half will Love you just as you are and will consider themselves lucky to have you.   

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Not So Sweet….When you are being taken advantage of

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What can I say I hear and read way too much about this sort of thing and it is not right at all but its something that exists and I do feel that’s its important to make these things known and not have them hidden. There are so many people out there whether they are people you know or people you hear about in the news who experience sexual assault and its just getting ridiculous how many people out there think its perfectly ok and how many people even choose to keep quiet about it.

People who are in positions with people they know whether its in a school environment, work environment or just out and about (or even your own home) its very difficult to know whether what’s happening is ok or not (As I am typing this I am sure people are getting confused by this but it will make sense in a minute) When you are around someone who you have to show respect for or in a position where you feel you need to be nice sometimes its hard to speak up for yourself without creating a scene or effecting things like jobs, education or even friendship. The mistake here is that you forget that you have self worth and respect for yourself and no one should feel its ok to disrespect you and you not do anything about it. Its not ok and its not right either. There are people that will help you and be understanding if you just tell someone and if possible tell the person themselves to back off and to stay away from you as it is unwanted attention. It isn’t necessary to swear or worry about coming off rude as you have every right to tell them exactly where to go as without your consent they should not be invading your personal space.

There is another thing that is why people keep quiet sometimes its not because of losing a job or anything like that sometimes its gaining a reputation or having friends judge you or disrespect you. This is something that confuses me a lot. If you are a victim in this what name will you gain when the person who is wrong is the one abusing you. This is another reason to speak up, if you don’t the other person will, they will tell people that it was you and they will make  the whole thing look like they didn’t do anything wrong at all and that you are just one of “those types” of people, whether you are male or female it can turn on you both so don’t think that you are ok either way. Speak up and make yourself heard and don’t feel ashamed when you aren’t wrong. Please be careful and look after yourself and make sure that people aren’t overstepping the mark

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Views on intimacy

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BE WARNED I HAVE ALOT OF LINKS TO SHARE WITH YOU. PLEASE CLICK IF YOU FEEL THEY ARE USEFUL 😀

https://thesweetestpartsoflove.wordpress.com/2015/09/22/are-you-ready-for-love-making-your-first-time

https://thesweetestpartsoflove.wordpress.com/2016/12/27/respect-yourself-and-you-will-be-respected-in-turn

https://thesweetestpartsoflove.wordpress.com/2016/12/13/practice-makes-perfect-part-2-intimacy 

https://thesweetestpartsoflove.wordpress.com/2017/02/07/bonding

Intimacy is one of those things people will always look at differently and I feel that its important to establish the fact that not all views are the right way for everyone. Lots of people prefer things certain way, some people like others to be very affectionate and loving towards them and some people will prefer things to be slightly rougher and for someone else to kind of “take charge” but its better to work out what you like. The links above I feel maybe useful with this particular subject although they don’t really touch this exact subject. There are people very new to this subject that think being a certain way and adopting certain mannerisms is what other people like and automatically assume that’s how they should do things, but this isn’t right and most likely will effect your future relationships. There is also a very important thing to remember and that is to be the way you are and do things the way you like and think of others and not to assume you know. It makes things better for all. Also realising that the use of TV shows, films or even books as examples, does not reflect real life, The way its portrayed  is not always the way real love and affection is shown and its definitely something to take into consideration.

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Long Distance :0(

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I may or may not have mentioned that me and the Long haired one are long distant at the moment due to certain circumstances. I for one have never experience this kind of relationship before and to be honest I am finding it really hard to deal with. I have a previous post about how I was feeling. Please click link to read post:https://thesweetestpartsoflove.wordpress.com/2017/10/24/feeling-vulnerable

Long distance relationships are one of those things that when you have feel the struggle and sadness of being apart for so long you start to wonder whether this relationship is even worth all this. There are many people around that live much closer who you could actually spend time with and see often and not have to worry about if and when you will see each other soon and many people wont understand this…. I was one of them. Looking back to when I was younger back in the days when I was trying to make friends online I met people who lived on the other side of the UK or even the other side of the world and even though I was in a place to get caught up in conversation I did realise that when It came to it having someone who lived closer meant more to me. I cant remember if I ever mentioned this but before I had my first boyfriend I was talking to a guy that lived in America and he seemed to really like me and I think I was more in a place of infatuation so when my friend decided to change our relationship I decided that I was going to date him instead of the American guy because I wanted a boyfriend id actually be able to see and hold more then once a year and to be fair I’m sure that what we all want deep down. When it came to online dating with a dating website I was trying to find people that lived closer as living over an hour train ride was just too much for me even though the people I talked to seemed really nice I just wasn’t sure bout the distance.

Fast forward to where I am now I wont say long distance is a relationship you have because that’s what  you want or look for but if it comes to it and you meet someone you think is absolute magic then why not at least attempt to make something special out of it. As we get older we lose people that were once special and close to us a little bit or all together and meeting new people can be difficult and once we make that special connection distance should be no obstacle especially if you can handle it.

 The Long Haired One I see something special in and I want to see if we can make this work until its possible to have a relationship where we live closer to each other again. At this time we are trying to aim for a more once a month meet and at least a phone call or video call a day with random messages throughout to keep us going obviously its not the same but its as close as we are gonna get right now and sad as it is we look towards a brighter future for us both.

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