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First Holiday! Part Two

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Took bit of time out from this but I am back from my holiday :D:D

I did already discuss about going away with my Sweet One in a previous blog. Please click the link below to read my First Holiday blog:

  https://thesweetestpartsoflove.wordpress.com/2018/05/08/holiday/

I have never gone on holiday with an other half before but as a first of possibly many many more holidays to come it wasn’t half bad :D. Me and My Sweet One went to Greece for a week and to be honest I think that was just bout right as we enjoyed ourselves, had the freedom to do what we felt like doing and had no problems with one another.

When we decided to go on this holiday we didn’t want to plan too much about what we were going to do while we were there or anything. We just wanted a relaxing holiday with the freedom to things according to our mood. We could spend time at the beach, walk round the different tourist shops, go on an excursion, spend the evening at the hotel or see the evening entertainment if or when we wanted with no restrictions or stress as the main point of this was to spend time together.

Sharing a room and being together from morning until bedtime was something we did wonder about having never spent a full day along with spending the night at the same time but given the novelty of it we made the most of it, cuddling up when going to sleep, brushing our teeth together in the morning and even laying out on the bed like starfishes sweating from the extreme heat !

While we there we managed to book ourselves up for a tour and a turtle cruise which we really enjoyed. The tour included a small boat ride and the cruise had us swimming in the sea. On the days we hadn’t planned anything we did a long walk to explore the area, did a round of mini golf, walked on the beach, did a bit of swimming and ate lots of food at meal times! 

 We get on really well together and the fact that we could spend all day with each and not have to say goodbye at the end of it…. well we Loved every minute of it! The entire time we were there we held hands wherever we went, gave each other random hugs and kisses and shared our appreciation for one another even including small romantic things too 😀

The particular island of Greece we went to was very pretty and we enjoyed the blue waters and sunshine everyday and as a first boyfriend girlfriend holiday together all I can say is “when can we do this again?”…..:D  

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First Holiday!!!

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I mentioned in one of my other posts that I would be going on holiday. What I didn’t mention that this would be my first holiday without my family. Growing up I had a group of friends and when we had some savings aside and felt old enough we decided to plan to go away together but since there was so many of us it was difficult to even plan anything as everyone wanted something different and we just couldn’t agree so ended up doing nothing. Getting into relationships especially my long term one I expected to go away at some point together but he just never seemed interested and kept telling me to do things with other people. My family had their own plans with relationships, my siblings went with their friends or other halves and my parents did a random 4-5 days here and there over the year. Due to all the above I have not been away for bout 8years and I mean a flight holiday not the coach and train days trips and weekends I randomly do.

Since me and my Sweet One have been together a  few months now we haven’t really properly had time alone away from people at work or families at home and since we met during the winter time we never had a chance to really go many places but since the weather is heating up we have decided to book our first holiday together. Since neither of us have gone away in a relationship we decided to do no longer then a week just in case. I really doubt we will have any problems being together all day everyday but its a precaution and even though we are both looking forward to it we want to make sure we plan things in such away that we have no problems and can freely enjoy our time together.

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Random conversation- Swimsuit VS Bikini

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Thinking about the holidays I did get myself a swimsuit and no I didn’t opt for the bikini I’m not comfortable in it and I don’t think it will flatter me, in spite of people saying given how skinny I am I could wear anything and not worry. Knowing my body and what would roughly suit me and hide certain things I’m not happy about I disagree with those comments and kept the one piece swimsuit I had, which I might add I look pretty good in ;0)

Talking to the Sweet One he said I’d look nice in a bikini and said he would like to see me wear one day when I showed him what I was going to take with me on holiday(more on this later). I told him that fair enough I put one on for him so he can see me in a bikini but he won’t be the only one seeing me in. He asked me who else I would be showing it too but I replied that when we go to the pool and beach together other people will see me and even other men would look at me and I asked him if he really wanted other people to see me that way. Funny enough and slightly surprisingly enough he said he didn’t want other people looking at me. I thought he would reply with something like “I want everyone to see my girlfriend and how pretty she looks in it and that she is mine” but I guess he realised something, I thought the whole conversation was quite odd. Either way whether he wants to see me in a bikini or not it would be my choice in what I want to wear and I’m going to stick with my colourful, flattering one piece which I know I’m going to feel comfortable on my holiday in and enjoy it too besides the Sweet One already agrees I look nice in it so its only going to encourage me to wear it more 😀

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Meet the parents :D- I finally brought someone home!

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I don’t think I ever mentioned this but here it is now. I have never brought a guy home to meet my parents!! :O:O:O

(the lions are just from my previous blog Meet the Parents click link below to read:

 https://thesweetestpartsoflove.wordpress.com/2017/10/17/meet-the-parentsfamily/)Yep in spite of 3boyfriends including the long term one I could never tell my family bout me dating….However lucky number 4 got to experience it first hand on his side as well as mine. This wasn’t particularly a proper meeting as it was an impulse for him to come collect me from for our date. It didn’t exactly go to plan but I do feel that the fact that I  even took this step means that I am really serious bout the Sweet One being in my life. I finally tried to be brave and take a bit more control of what I want. This meet was very short so I am planning to do this again maybe teatime or dinner or something when my siblings aren’t around so the Sweet One can talk to my parents. I know there may be somethings they wont approve of but all I need for now is the awareness and acceptance and as for the liking him stuff  that will come when they get to know him more.

Wish me luck! ;0)

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Long Distance :0(

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I may or may not have mentioned that me and the Long haired one are long distant at the moment due to certain circumstances. I for one have never experience this kind of relationship before and to be honest I am finding it really hard to deal with. I have a previous post about how I was feeling. Please click link to read post:https://thesweetestpartsoflove.wordpress.com/2017/10/24/feeling-vulnerable

Long distance relationships are one of those things that when you have feel the struggle and sadness of being apart for so long you start to wonder whether this relationship is even worth all this. There are many people around that live much closer who you could actually spend time with and see often and not have to worry about if and when you will see each other soon and many people wont understand this…. I was one of them. Looking back to when I was younger back in the days when I was trying to make friends online I met people who lived on the other side of the UK or even the other side of the world and even though I was in a place to get caught up in conversation I did realise that when It came to it having someone who lived closer meant more to me. I cant remember if I ever mentioned this but before I had my first boyfriend I was talking to a guy that lived in America and he seemed to really like me and I think I was more in a place of infatuation so when my friend decided to change our relationship I decided that I was going to date him instead of the American guy because I wanted a boyfriend id actually be able to see and hold more then once a year and to be fair I’m sure that what we all want deep down. When it came to online dating with a dating website I was trying to find people that lived closer as living over an hour train ride was just too much for me even though the people I talked to seemed really nice I just wasn’t sure bout the distance.

Fast forward to where I am now I wont say long distance is a relationship you have because that’s what  you want or look for but if it comes to it and you meet someone you think is absolute magic then why not at least attempt to make something special out of it. As we get older we lose people that were once special and close to us a little bit or all together and meeting new people can be difficult and once we make that special connection distance should be no obstacle especially if you can handle it.

 The Long Haired One I see something special in and I want to see if we can make this work until its possible to have a relationship where we live closer to each other again. At this time we are trying to aim for a more once a month meet and at least a phone call or video call a day with random messages throughout to keep us going obviously its not the same but its as close as we are gonna get right now and sad as it is we look towards a brighter future for us both.

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Meet the Parents/Family

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Well (I always seem to start this way) I think this is something I haven’t really mentioned or if I have maybe I have forgotten but its something that has happened recently so maybe talk now 😀

Also don’t think I’m putting a pride of lions picture because families are scary and its symbolic I just couldn’t find a picture I wanted to use although it this picture fits in with this post for then its all good 😀

Meeting the family is a big thing in any relationship but sometimes it takes a more casual role depending on how you look at it, the family you are seeing or sometimes how old you are or the type of relationship you are in.

I remember meeting my first boyfriend’s mum, It was just her as I he didn’t have many family members. I never really got to talk to her much but she did know me from my calling the house. I saw her maybe two or three times in passing. The very first time I met her I guess I didn’t really think much of it, as I normally see my friends parents when I visit their house and I kind of viewed it the same way, as we were already friends but I never met his mum the first time I went to his house, I met her when we had our “first date” at  his house. When we did get together I don’t think his mum knew who I was. She seemed quite nice but  I was told she wasn’t but I cant really judge from the times I met her. 

My second boyfriend’s mum (I did not meet his sister or his dad) I met twice and then once or twice when we weren’t in the relationship. First time meeting her was very quick and kind of awkward as her partner was there and he didn’t really like people being around her (he wasn’t a well person so had some issues with certain things) We were out posting leaflets in the area and stopped at his mums place so had quick introductions. Officially meeting her when she invited me for tea it was quite nice and I had no problems and I think she liked me. Again boyfriend wasn’t too sure about how our meeting would go based on previous ex’s (I did well :0P).

My current boyfriend (The Long Haired One :D) I had a slightly unplanned meet the parents (yep this time round I met both mum and dad and the furry siblings too) when I was meeting my boyfriend at his temporary living arrangement at his parents place and so meeting his parents was unavoidable at 2months in to our relationship. I stayed with them for the weekend and I was very welcomed and I think they liked having me around. Again I wasn’t too worried about anything there was no stress I just somehow got on with them.

I’m sure meeting the parents or their family could be a little daunting but I guess its all in your head and how you take it, In my situation meeting their family wasn’t too bad I somehow got through it all ok. The slightly scarier time for me would be the meet MY family bit as even at the ripe old age of 29 I never ever brought a boyfriend home. I always wanted to make sure I knew the person properly or long enough, it was the perfect time as in the relationship and the stuff with family was all good. I wanted to be more prepared in how to go about it and many many other things and so things always kept coming up and it just kept getting pushed back and back. This time I’m going to do it. When and how I have no idea but if you would like to share your comments below it would be very useful.  

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Special Someone and Online Dating Experience

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This is a very new experience for me and I honestly don’t know how I am going to deal with this but I am determined to at least try. I have mentioned that My Special Someone and I are no longer together in a previous post and I am now dating the Long Haired One. I also may not have mentioned that the Special Someone and I are now Friends only and so I continue to meet with him and spend time with the Furry Princess as well once a week to catch up and we have stopped the phone calls.

When I was completely single things were fine and Special Someone’s behaviour had not changed towards me but  when I started my online journey I didn’t want to hide things. Regardless of our previous relationship we are friends and I want to keep an open and honest friendship if possible, so I mentioned my profile on a dating site and asked if he wanted to be kept in the loop or be kept out of everything. He chose to not know so I never mentioned who I had gone out with and what happened, I just used to say I went out wherever I did and he never questioned who I went with. I don’t want complications, he is aware of my dating and the rest he does not need to know regardless of our past and our present friendship, the rest isn’t his business anymore, as harsh as it sounds but its a reality I try to accept.

Many people I have spoken to friends, colleagues and even the new friends I made on the dating site have had mixed reviews on the fact that I am friends and meet on a regular basis with an ex. Majority have expressed their concerns but try to be supportive and a few have expressed their disagreement and feel I should cut my ex loose. In spite of everyone’s opinions I have stuck to what I feel and that is with an open and honest friendship. I can make being friends with my ex work and we will continue to be friends as long as its working for us both. The day it doesn’t… well I guess we will have to talk about it and find a way around things and if we cant sort anything we may have to go our separate ways. My Special Someone and I have been a big part of each others lives, 6years worth of relationship plus almost a year of friendship and the fact that we are parents to a very special Furry baby has made us almost a family and I cant imagine life with out them. I know its not ideal and it will bring complications but as far as I know the Long Haired One is ok with my friendship and trusts me enough to be comfortable and as he said if its not romantic he has no problem with it and I agree especially as he can trust in me I know I can trust in him too. Trust after all is the foundation to any relationship, without it everything crumbles…

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