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Views on intimacy

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BE WARNED I HAVE ALOT OF LINKS TO SHARE WITH YOU. PLEASE CLICK IF YOU FEEL THEY ARE USEFUL 😀

https://thesweetestpartsoflove.wordpress.com/2015/09/22/are-you-ready-for-love-making-your-first-time

https://thesweetestpartsoflove.wordpress.com/2016/12/27/respect-yourself-and-you-will-be-respected-in-turn

https://thesweetestpartsoflove.wordpress.com/2016/12/13/practice-makes-perfect-part-2-intimacy 

https://thesweetestpartsoflove.wordpress.com/2017/02/07/bonding

Intimacy is one of those things people will always look at differently and I feel that its important to establish the fact that not all views are the right way for everyone. Lots of people prefer things certain way, some people like others to be very affectionate and loving towards them and some people will prefer things to be slightly rougher and for someone else to kind of “take charge” but its better to work out what you like. The links above I feel maybe useful with this particular subject although they don’t really touch this exact subject. There are people very new to this subject that think being a certain way and adopting certain mannerisms is what other people like and automatically assume that’s how they should do things, but this isn’t right and most likely will effect your future relationships. There is also a very important thing to remember and that is to be the way you are and do things the way you like and think of others and not to assume you know. It makes things better for all. Also realising that the use of TV shows, films or even books as examples, does not reflect real life, The way its portrayed  is not always the way real love and affection is shown and its definitely something to take into consideration.

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Songs Of Love: No matter what- Gonna Get Better

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I was going through some songs I had in my playlists on YouTube and I found this one and it just seemed kind of sweet in a way so here it is for you.

This song is by Fifth Harmony and from the last album they did as a group of five. The song is called Gonna get better. I think there is another version of this song but I liked this one. 

Please click the link to listen to the song:https://youtu.be/0D9TDch5ve0

This song definitely seems to be about reassurance in the fact that no matter what anyone else seems to have or the insecurities that you cant give enough to someone they still want you and only you whether it looks like there is temptation in having more the satisfaction is in just having you.

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Friend Zoned

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Hmm I really think this one is a strange one but a random conversation brought this up and I actually don’t view it as something I am doing. If you think back to a couple of months ago I was dating using an online dating website and obviously not all of those dates became something and not all of those dates disappeared altogether.

 When I signed up to the dating site I obviously was looking to date someone in spite of not going in that direction and sticking with them I found myself finding a friendship to be a lot better to have with some of them instead. I have made some friends that I still have today and I don’t view keeping these guys as a bad thing, as they are quite happy to be friends with me and we are able to bond over the dating situation they have experienced and what I have been experiencing too. We are able to help each other and talk about things openly and I think that its a good thing to come out of a spark-less date you’ve had with someone. At one point I’m sure we did have an attraction of some sort towards each other which resulted in us wanting to meet on a date but at the end of it we mutually accepted to part ways altogether or part ways and enter a friendship especially if we have made a good connection it seems a waste to end things just because we aren’t dating each other. I am sure people have their own views on this “Friend zoning ” thing but this is my one. If I can make a friend then I will do so but if its awkward or uncomfortable and it makes sense to lose all contact then I will do so.

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Long Distance :0(

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I may or may not have mentioned that me and the Long haired one are long distant at the moment due to certain circumstances. I for one have never experience this kind of relationship before and to be honest I am finding it really hard to deal with. I have a previous post about how I was feeling. Please click link to read post:https://thesweetestpartsoflove.wordpress.com/2017/10/24/feeling-vulnerable

Long distance relationships are one of those things that when you have feel the struggle and sadness of being apart for so long you start to wonder whether this relationship is even worth all this. There are many people around that live much closer who you could actually spend time with and see often and not have to worry about if and when you will see each other soon and many people wont understand this…. I was one of them. Looking back to when I was younger back in the days when I was trying to make friends online I met people who lived on the other side of the UK or even the other side of the world and even though I was in a place to get caught up in conversation I did realise that when It came to it having someone who lived closer meant more to me. I cant remember if I ever mentioned this but before I had my first boyfriend I was talking to a guy that lived in America and he seemed to really like me and I think I was more in a place of infatuation so when my friend decided to change our relationship I decided that I was going to date him instead of the American guy because I wanted a boyfriend id actually be able to see and hold more then once a year and to be fair I’m sure that what we all want deep down. When it came to online dating with a dating website I was trying to find people that lived closer as living over an hour train ride was just too much for me even though the people I talked to seemed really nice I just wasn’t sure bout the distance.

Fast forward to where I am now I wont say long distance is a relationship you have because that’s what  you want or look for but if it comes to it and you meet someone you think is absolute magic then why not at least attempt to make something special out of it. As we get older we lose people that were once special and close to us a little bit or all together and meeting new people can be difficult and once we make that special connection distance should be no obstacle especially if you can handle it.

 The Long Haired One I see something special in and I want to see if we can make this work until its possible to have a relationship where we live closer to each other again. At this time we are trying to aim for a more once a month meet and at least a phone call or video call a day with random messages throughout to keep us going obviously its not the same but its as close as we are gonna get right now and sad as it is we look towards a brighter future for us both.

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