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The One I Thought I liked and an Irishman

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Updates. Well I met an irish guy (not in person) and he seems ok just very negative about this online dating stuff as he has been on it awhile. The Random guy from before had talked to me about the guy I was kind of interested in and told me to message him and find out what was going on. I was hesitant but given the way my head was getting way too involved I figured it was best to say something after 5days of nothing. I sent out a message and waited and within a few minutes I received a reply saying that he wanted to give the meeting up a miss, he didn’t have time and that we would be better off with people we have more in common with and similar habits. I found it kind of strange that he would do that given how he was always trying to be polite. After agreeing to meet with someone if you had changed your mind it would be more appropriate to at least tell the person you no longer have an interest. I was disappointed of course as after speaking to someone for 2weeks you do get attached but I got passed it I mean his missing out right? ;oP

The Irishman well I had spoke to him a few days before I had an issue with my phone so ended up using text instead of WhatsApp and on that same day he was eventually at the airport on his way to Ireland for work stuff and family stuff so I called him while he was waiting to get on the plane. It was actually a nice conversation for half hour or so. I figured we would talk when he gets back but once he had landed he sent me a message and said he was going to call me in a little while. We talked through the evening until I really had to go to sleep for work. One thing I noticed was he seemed slightly shy when he mentioned somethings and it made me feel that even though he had come off as more of a friend (some people on dating sites do just want to be friends and will just like chatting) I felt like he had a thing for me but dismissed it as most people will say something or show interest. The next day I managed to download another Wi-Fi message related app and we continued to talk from the morning and I told him that the way he was coming off like he had a thing for me and then he kind of told me that he had an interest in me but though he would back off as it seemed I like the other guy. I told him he should have just said as I hadn’t even met the other guy. After a couple of days we decided to pick a day to meet up when he came back from Ireland. I will update you on when that happens and what happened.

The guy I liked I will not be meeting

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Another update!

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Well another update on my dating. I had a few conversations with some guys that were a bit odd. I had the one that thought I was too nice and too much of a good girl come back to me. He told me he had a chatted to a few girls and he liked me better lol well we attempted friendship again but it just wasn’t working out and so I told him I wanted to be respected and that it was nice knowing him. He replied with “hmm” and then that was it.

I have also kept in touch with both the first “not a date” guy and the long haired guy even today and we have random text messages. The Asian guy (not the Indian) keeps me updated with his dating and has been making progress with one girl in particular that I have yet to find out more 😀 I have started talking to a security guard, a skater boy, a very random boy and one I may be quite interested in. The security guard I did meet up with. Had a chat and bit of a  walk for a few hours in the city park. I enjoyed the conversations and the company but I just didn’t feel anything for him (no spark) I couldn’t imagine ever being anything more then friends. Plus there was the height issue. I am no average height girl but I am pretty sure his height was ;0) as me at my 5’2 wasn’t too far off from his. Seemed like a nice guy and will keep in contact.

The skater boy seemed interested in me but is very awkward about having a phone call with me so just messages me everyday. I am not too sure where I am with this guy but I do enjoy talking to him but we have yet to see what happens when and if we meet up.

The random guy does message me often and does say weird things and by that I mean not dirty- weird, the normal weird if makes sense. He jokes a lot I guess. He seems to be on this site for quite some time and has trouble dealing with the lack of replies he gets. He lives a fair bit away from me but I guess we could still meet and see what happens.  

The last one for some reason I feel something for and it seems fairly similar to what I had with the first guy I met. The feelings of course aren’t reality and I am trying to keep it together but its really hard. He is actually kind of cute, interesting and polite plus the fact that my cousin said I think you will end up with this guy.!!Hmm well we will see. His replies are bit slow now after having messaged everyday for 4days and the last one being all day then having two day gaps in speaking with me. Maybe he has lost interest?

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You’re too nice and too much of a good girl

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Not long after the twice cancelled date I managed to start speaking to someone else. Seemed quite nice but just seemed extremely busy so we would talk in the evenings in between my early bed time and whenever he started messaging me. He was Russian and so had quite an unusual accent, I struggled to understand him but got used to it eventually and it was fine but we mostly sent messages any way. One thing I noticed is that he always wanted to see selfies and would ask questions that were a bit much sometimes. I tried to be patient and tried to ask a bunch of normal questions but it just seemed liked something was lacking with him.

We had planned to meet up but getting close to the day we planned to meet we realised that maybe we wanted slightly different things. He told me that I was too nice and that he did not want to hurt me and that meeting up would be irresponsible of him. Seemed sound enough. I was too much of a good girl for him and he as looking for a and I quote “a naughty girl” lol

He just wanted to date with generally physical stuff mostly involved whereas I wanted a relationship that including everything. We tried to do the friend thing as I asked whether he wanted to continue speaking or if I should delete his number and he insisted we still keep in contact.  We talked on the day we were meant to meet but he was continuing to “flirt” and it just made me wonder what exactly he wanted. I made it clear that we were friends and not going to date but he just got a bit rude and I decided that it may be best to not be in contact with each other as it seemed he did not know how to have a normal friendship.

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Twice Cancelled

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Well here is the third “date”. This one seemed to be going well. I spoke to him almost everyday, we had phone calls and texts messages even as early as me getting ready for work at 3am. He seemed pretty decent and kind of normal compared to most on that site.

We planned to meet up the week after as I was busy at the weekend. My plans fell through  with my friend so I suggested bringing the meet forward. We sorted a time and a place and it was just a case of waiting. But then he had to cancel on me because of other plans he had later in the day. It wouldn’t work so I had a plan less Saturday at home after having two plans :0( We rescheduled back to the week after. We still continued to talk but as things went along I realised that something about what he was saying seemed a bit strange. He seemed to realise it too. Since things weren’t making a lot of sense we talked  more and it came up that he did not want a serious/ long term relationship he wanted to have 3-4months of a “relationship” and to break up. !!!!!!

Well I did not know what to say about that but I guess in the back of my mind I felt that maybe I could change that but he assured me that it wouldn’t so I suggested we be friends, and then a few days later he had gone quiet and had stopped being up at 3am messaging me and talking to me through the day. I questioned him bout the meet and he said it couldn’t happen as he isn’t looking for friends.

This was very weird and it was a definite first for me. I never knew people actually do this sort of thing. He wanted a full normal relationship and even with a connection, love making and being around each other daily he would still want to end a relationship. Third person I “met” I didn’t even get to the date.

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Conversation about my Ex

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I received a message from someone who seemed very interested in my background. He was Asian but very interested in the Indian culture. He watched Bollywood films, listened to the music, learnt a bit of Hindi and ate the food. He seemed like quite a smart guy(doctor!!).

I did enjoy speaking to him but the conversation went to a place where I didn’t think it would. We talked about my ex. Not a little but quite a lot. So much that we ended up having a phone call. We discussed a lot of things about relationships, both his and mine. He did seem quite worried about my situation to be honest. How it was effecting me and how I was dealing with it.

 He decided that dating was not ideal for the two of us after hearing my story but wanted to continue a friendship. I still speak to him now and we do keep up to date with each others “dating” experience:D

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