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Well another update. I met up with another person. Something you should know beforehand is I have a very weird, not exactly phobia, but a teeny fear of bald people or even people with very little hair. Don’t ask why, I’m weird. Any way.. to the point, my story. Ok well one more thing you should be aware of is I have never gone out with an Indian person and if you didn’t know already I am actually Indian. Another thing is Indian families do like to keep their culture alive and would expect you to bring home a nice Indian boy. Now…
On the website I’m on I get a lot of messages from Asian men that aren’t even from this country but there was one who actually Is from here and I did talk to him kind of categorising him in the Friend zone. He did ask a lot of questions and when he found out more about me and realised I hadn’t dated an Indian guy he was determined to be the very first. One other thing you should know is that he had hair in his profile. Keep this in mind,
The day we met up came round. I was working and was going to go straight to the place after coming back from work. I slept a bit longer then expected so asked to push the time half hour (so as not to be late- lateness equals rudeness) so I could shower change and get out the door. I arrived ten minutes earlier and was hungry and desperate for the loo. The place we had gone to eat also held events and there was one particular country music event happening that was very busy. I needed the loo and there was a HUGE line. Nothing for it but to wait to get in a restaurant. Called my “date” up and he didn’t answer. Eventually got through to him after finding a bench and making a phone call to my cousin. He was not close at all and the time to meet was past making him late.
Finally the call arrives and we try to locate each other. He shows up and he is missing one important thing!! His HAIR! Ok if you don’t know why this is a big deal to me then scroll up. I was freaking out inside, I was not feeling good but I was trying to be nice about it. I was going to make it through this day but I needed the loo and I was hungry and kind of annoyed. Not a good mix but I was going to keep it together. “Shall we get some coffee from Starbucks?” he goes. !!! I politely decline and ask to pick a place to eat as I have not eaten anything since 8am and it was coming up to 2pm. He asks me where I want to go so I choose a Chinese buffet that seems reasonably priced and will hopefully cater for all. Unless you just don’t like Chinese. We head in and then it starts. The complaints. “I don’t like it here, Lets go somewhere else? There’s not enough food here, This place is no good?, Lets go! I don’t want to be here ” With out a breath he complains one after the other (my tummy and bladder are both fit to burst at this rate). I try to be reasonable and ask him to look around at the food first and check he is not happy and he still wants to leave so I say ok (trying to be nice but just getting Hangry)let’s go look at where you want to go. He picks a place that is expensive and extremely busy and when I tell him that it’s too expensive and that I don’t want to pay that much he makes the decision for us to go here and that he is paying and this is what we are doing. I go to the loo and end up staying in the cubicle a lot longer then necessary thinking about leaving and going home. I don’t like the way he is behaving and the way he is. I know it’s rude but I just can’t do it. I step out and tell him that I have to get home. I say my apologies and leave.
Ok I know you are probably thinking two things. Man thats a long post and OMG she is sooooo mean. Yes and yes, I know. I have never done this before it is definitely a first for me. There were several reasons why I just wasn’t feeling good, besides the need to pee and hunger and that was trying to make my family happy. As I mentioned before I did not view this guy as anything and was happy just chatting as friends and the relationship I had previously was quite a complicated one and would not be accepted (white and older). I thought since I don’t attract many Asians I should make an attempt by going out with this one and bring home a “nice Indian boy” to my family….. Very wrong reasons. I will explain more of this in a another post.
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Another update on three guys I ended up “meeting”.
I found one guy who seemed really nice. I enjoyed talking to him and I felt that he might be someone I’d get on well with. He had an interesting accent and seemed weird and fun. There was just one problem his working hours were way weird and there was just never time to talk. I’d be in bed by 9pm and up at 3am and he would want to talk during those times. Then he had an unfortunate incident within his family and kind of went a bit distant. Eventually when things had calmed down he started talking to me again. Somewhere in our conversation he got the idea that maybe we wanted two different things. He told me that I was nice and sweet but he just wanted something physical. We went separate ways without actually meeting up in person.
During the time I had been talking to the previous guy I had also met this other guy who seemed nice and normal but at the same time a bit full on. He kept asking me for photos and kept telling me how pretty he thought I was and that he wanted kisses and to flirt and all this other stuff. I found a lot of it strange especially as we hadn’t even met up in person yet. I did ask to meet and he was away for work and the days he wanted were awkward for me so we decided to wait until he came back, When he did come back he never mentioned anything about meeting. I thought he just wanted to be friends and left it there. He was bit strange with me when he did talk to me and it came up about being friends and he told me that wasn’t what he wanted and that he was waiting for me to be ready to do those things I mentioned above with him. I told him that there was a things such as attraction which is necessary if you feel you even want to do things like that. It shouldn’t be expected from me before we have even met.
I remember getting a message from this long haired guy who reminded me of one of the Hansons. He messaged me and I ended up really enjoying talking to him but he seemed a bit awkward. He seemed really unsure of himself and what he was worth. He was certain I would run away. He wanted to be friends so as to not disappoint me. Was very unusual. He seemed cute and funny and a touch weird so I still talk to him.
All of these guys I did not end up meeting, I lost two but kept the last as my friend.
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Well I did say I would keep you updated and I kind of done it a bit late ;op ….Anyway…:D
After putting up a profile I just thought I would just see what would happen rather then actively look. I eventually got some messages but a lot were ones I’d rather not repeat on here, but I managed to get a normal one. Actually turned in to an on going conversation all weekend. I would receive other messages but see this guy’s one and want to reply to his message first. Three days of messaging on the site and I decided at some point on the Sunday to swap numbers. He wasn’t feeling that good on account of a night out on the Saturday so said just to text. We texted a couple of times and then ended up having a phone call. The call lasted for a good couple of hours until my phone died and it was time to sort dinner for me and my brother. I charged up the phone and started cooking. I received some messages in between cooking and then I received one about meeting up In the week.
My Special Someone and I had a special bond and being with someone else was a little bit much for me so instead of saying yes I asked why. He told that I was a nice person and I said but we met on a dating site, meaning he must be expecting something. This time he was more direct “do you want to go on a date?” This is when some funny tummy flips were happening and I kind of freaked out a bit. I don’t know why but I felt more scared then flattered. I figured I could just see what would happen and whether I was in a place to move on or not. Nothing has to happen right? I called him up and told him how I was feeling and asked if we could meet on a “not a date” (it’s basically a date but just by calling it not a date I feel more comfortable) I told him I just wanted to meet up, talk and have a laugh with out any expectations. First dates (not a date) are meant to be fun. He seemed understanding and agreed. We set up a day to meet in the city.
The day arrived.
I got on a train and headed out to meet him and he was slightly different to what I thought, but he seemed pretty much the same in the way he talked and the way his personality was when we had chatted, so I knew I wouldn’t have much problem getting through the day. I had fun we laughed and talked and wandered around a bit. There was no spark or attraction but I did feel he could become a really good friend of mine given the chance. We got on really well and I enjoyed his company. However he does have slight similarities to my Special Someone so maybe it’s a good thing we don’t date, as I don’t think it’s healthy to go from one Special Someone to another. Overall the not a date was a success. I made a new friend and the dating journey wasn’t as scary as I thought so I am considering meeting other people. I will take my time though.
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I thought I would share that I saw the film!!!! :D:D:D
I have always loved this story along side The Lion King as my favourite Disney films but this Beauty and the Beast was slightly more realistic in some ways and included somethings that would be slightly more relatable.
I am sure we all know the Disney version of Beauty and the Beast but there was parts of the story that had slightly changed and the songs although were the same had added a few new songs. The differences although slightly odd to get round (expectations after all) made it a story in it’s own right.
I Loved Emma Watson as Belle and I Loved listening to all the songs, both old and new :D. The Beast was actually really amazing to look at 😀 (even as a Prince ;0))
The other characters in the films I had slight mixed feelings on. I thought Maurice, Lumiere and Le Fou were pretty good, Gastan seemed to grow on me even though I expected the big old “barn” sized one in the animated one, but he did have the narcissism down ;0) Cogsworth wasn’t quite the same for me and Mrs Potts and Chip seemed like different characters altogether. There was one character, Plummette who was the little Feather duster but for some reason was like half a bird which was quite unusual. Obviously the looks of all the characters were made to be realistic and in my head can’t replace the animated ones which seemed to come to life a lot more. However if you forget the animation and watch they do grow on you slightly.
I loved the interaction between the Beast and Belle and how the story as a bit more depth then the animated one. Overall I would definitely recommend seeing this film 😀 The dancing is beautiful, Belle in her yellow dress is beautiful, the library is beautiful and even the Prince! ;0) Very nice film 😀 Just watch it!! :D:D
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