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“Practice makes Perfect”-Part 1: Dating

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I thought I may have mentioned something similar about this but it turns out I haven’t.¬†This blog post is based on a recent conversation with someone I know who¬†is going away to Uni and very interested in experiencing dating and intimacy. She said to me that¬†practice makes perfect, as in gaining as much experience as possible with guys to perfect their kissing and intimacy skills for when they have a relationship.

I feel like this post could be long so I’m going to split it in to Dating first and Intimacy after (any excuse for another post! ;0) )

¬†First up… Dating!¬†When it comes to dating everybody is different. Some people have gone out on a date¬†with a new person every month for¬†a whole year, whereas someone else may have¬†been dating the same person for 1year and may not have been experienced¬†much but have managed to keep¬†a relationship, where as the¬†new person a month person may have experienced lots but not manage to hold on to a relationship. Both people have nothing wrong with them and both situations are not wrong. It is just a¬†unique experience for each person because each couple’s experience is different and¬†they have diverse needs. Never compare!!

There are some people like I mentioned above who believe they need as much experience as possible to get better at dating which does work in other ways but just not in dating. There is no getting better at it, that does not exist. The only thing you can get better is what¬†you can learn from your dates, such as staying away from certain people meaning working out the dodgy people, knowing spaghetti may not be the best dish to order on a dinner date and maybe saving the meet the parents stuff until you really know the person but that doesn’t always stop bad things from happening.

In dating the reason getting better at is doesn’t exist is because every person you meet is very different and they all want different things you so even if you work out one person it isn’t going to be helpful on another date with another person. You kind of have to cater for each persons needs and those needs may not match yours which is why I was mentioning the above.

¬†If you decide to just set up as many dates as possible so that you have dated lots and gained “experience” it won’t really add much, as it will only mean you have had a lot of dates with people who you aren’t even compatible which could mean horrible dates, awkward moments and having to phase out¬†someone possessive¬†:O (yep it does happen) Dating is in no way a competition and if you have been on more dates then you can remember and been with more guys then in one hand within a year people tend to look down on it and may wonder whats wrong with you. Trust me when¬†I¬†say this, each date you go on and each person you meet is something to enjoy and experience as it is not something you should be trying¬†to gain something from. That is not the experience you should be experiencing ūüėÄ That is not what matters. Having fun meeting someone new and getting a bonus of a second date or relationship out of it is .

Experience your dates the way you should, don’t be keeping a tally of guys/girls you’ve been with.

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Being Taken for Granted

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This is something I wouldn’t particularly say I have experienced as such but I do feel it is something to be brought to attention. Taking each other for granted is pretty much in what it says. There are people who may not realise that’s what they are doing and there are some people who are fully aware of it but feel they are doing no wrong. Taking advantage of someone’s kindness and generous nature isn’t a pleasant thing especially in a relationship whether the person realises they are doing It or not.

There are relationships where the one being taken advantage of will say that they don’t mind that their other half treats them that way and won’t make any step in bringing the issue up. Sadly this is not right. As I have said in previous blog posts I am sure it is very important to have an equal relationship where both are respected and treated well.

There are couples where¬†they go the traditional husband wife role where the man feels he needs take care of the money issues and do “man stuff”¬† and the woman does the baby and food making and the “girly things” to do¬†with the house.¬†What happens here is an issue may come up with the woman’s family and she may need to take care of things leaving the man at home alone for a couple of weeks. This is when the man realises the worth of his wife when he is lost in the kitchen, has no idea how to do the baby stuff, work vacuum or even how she managed to do it all in one day (basically a Santa doing Christmas in one night :op)

It works the same way for the girls. Date nights out,¬†and your other half pays, getting a lift to and from xyz, receiving compliments everyday and the many random gifts you may not even realise you are getting. You may get annoyed with your man for many things but don’t take for granted the things he does for you with out even so much a than you because it’s so in routine so normal that you forget to show appreciation and maybe even return the Love back ūüėÄ

We do more for each other then you can even imagine so once in awhile a bit of thanks wouldn’t go amiss ;0)

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Lover’s Tiff- On a Break!

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This kind of comes under Lovers Tiff so I’m going to place it here ;oP

I don’t think we have spoke about this yet so lets have a go. Having a break from your other half is daunting and sometimes when things get bit rough sometimes you need to take a break. No phones, meets or any kind of internet communication and just do your own thing for a bit. Its normally up to you how long you can go without each other for depending on who decides it in the first place. It’s not the¬†best and I do find it difficult to get through that sort of thing, as being away just makes you want¬†to be together and talk and see each other even more then before :0(

I remember¬†the first time we had time apart¬†and have a small break from each other. I admit it wasn’t that long but it honestly felt like forever and I hated it and hated him for wanting a break¬†too. I was happy to see¬†both my Special Someone and my Furry Princess, so happy¬†I was in tears. I know I’m baby but it’s bound to happen if you have never been away from each other for more then a week. Our relationship after seemed to make¬†some¬†improvements. We were much closer and more attentive towards each other. More importantly we had missed each other which sometimes you need to have in a relationship because with out missing each other you start to take each other for granted. I wouldn’t always think of having a break from each other as a good thing especially if it is used to run away from problems but it is good for just having a time out to have your own personal space for a bit.

Having problems and wanting to take a break is a good thing. Sometimes you get so caught up in what you hate about each other that you forget what you do Love about each together and time apart gives you space to reflect on that. However using it as a way to avoid your problems is not. It is not something I have ever done but know it does not help things. Your problems may go away while you go out with friends and do your own thing for a few weeks until you meet your other half again and jump back into your relationship again thinking it’s all solved but it really hasn’t actually gone away. The time apart is like a breather and when you come together again of course you won’t want to talk about your problems straight away but at least after a week of being back you may need to be brave and just talk about it. find away to solve what had gone wrong. Talk about what you had thought about while you were apart and what changes you would like to see. What ever it is just don’t avoid it.

Love each other and spend time together but don’t forget to have your own time to really¬†appreciate your time together.¬†

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Pencils of Promise- BubzBeauty

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This blog post I will be Sharing some Love that needs spreading ;0) 

I’m sure some of you must have heard of BubzBeauty on YouTube and recently she uploaded a video¬†on Pencils of Promise which she is again supporting this year ūüėÄ

Click the link for her video:

https://youtu.be/olM4qA4CNhg

I remember watching her video from last year where she was selling “I’m The Corny Kind” Poop sweatshirts to raise money for 2 schools in Laos which she succeeded in doing. This year she has made a “This Shirt built a School” design to help build 3 schools in Ghana which feature her 2 dogs Domo and Chubbi.¬†¬†

I was not able to buy it last year but did not want to miss out this time so I bought one!!! ūüėÄ YAY!! untitled

All the money made from the shirts goes to Pencils of Promise to help build schools for the children in Ghana. 

Please click to see her page and order her shirts, palette (small percentage goes towards the charity) or to just donate to Pencils of Promise: http://lindy.pencilsofpromise.org/

You can make your purchases and donate on Lindys website until the 14th November 2016- Not long left now!!

 Please contribute and support this charity to help get the children of Ghana to be able to go to school to learn how to read and write and gain an education for a brighter future.

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Rexina

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Cute or Sexy

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Growing up I remember everyone in high school wanting to be sexy and hot. It was what the guys wanted and the girls wanted….. apparently.

For me not so much and to be honest I wasn’t exactly either of those things :O I was cute in my own awkward way 0:) I had dates and boyfriends and what’s more I didn’t have to change myself to try and be “sexy” I was ok as I was from what I could see from what guys thought. I will admit there was some guys that thought I¬†was childish and not “woman”¬†enough for them but I am what I am and if they don’t like it then they can¬†go.¬†Yeah I had to wait awhile for someone to come along but it was worth the wait as there is nothing better then the cuteness you get from two cute people coming together.

Any girls out there wearing revealing clothes they aren’t quite comfortable in, wearing heels they can just about walk in, over doing the make up, trying to perfect their walk and over doing the flirting well just relax. Cute is cute and I’m sure any guy would find you adorable just the way you are with out you having to go the extra mile to get sexy quick. Getting sexy too quick and forcing what you aren’t will make you look anything but sexy (I’m sorry) Besides if I was a guy I would pick the cute girl over the sexy one any day :0P

Being sexy is over rated and it has it’s place….. in bedroom ;0)

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