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Unwanted Attention

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Well this post is not about relationships. It is about the dating stage and the strange and possibly scary stage. The different types of unwanted attention situations. (the ones I remember)

First impressions

When it comes to meeting people it is not always clear whether they are “normal” or not, even though they may come across as “normal”¬† at first you may see a whole different side of them when you show you aren’t interested. That’s when things get a little¬†bit “weird”.

My Experience

The person I met, I actually just wanted to be friends with and at the beginning they were interesting and fun to talk to but when they wouldn’t leave me alone and I tried to avoid them. That’s when things got a awkward. When msn was a big thing and you were on there everyday well that guy was too. I done the old trick of blocking him and appearing offline but he was still messaging me like he knew I was there. It was really scary. He wanted to talk but¬†I didn’t and somehow I managed to get rid of him but it took a couple of days and he did insult me quite a bit, even though I hadn’t done anything wrong. I was glad he knew no other contact except email.

I have another situation that’s similar but I actually met this person in person. He didn’t have a lot of friends and he wasn’t a typical boy. He did get¬†possessive of me as I always tried to be nice to him¬†and called him regularly. It got a bit much when he was always talking about his problems with me,¬†sharing things about his life and constantly praising me for being a good person. I was doing it out of sympathy and I¬†didn’t feel as close to him as he did to me. When it came to introducing him to some of my friends again he was very protective of me,¬†he didn’t understand we had inside jokes and silly things we did together and he thought they were being evil to me. It wasn’t right that he behaved¬†defensive in front of my close friends and I felt uncomfortable keeping our friendship.

Sweet talking stranger
You know the type, the have a¬†certain feature that stands out, a strong accent, their style of clothing, the way they look at you and where they stand next to you and they say something nice but it’s really random.

My Experience 

I remember being in town and seeing a random guy. At some point on my way home he stopped to talk to me. I assumed he wanted the time or directions as I was in a hurry to get the bus home. He just wanted to talk. I don’t really know what exactly he wanted at the time but he did try to compliment me. He asked for my number and I tried to give him a wrong one but it turns out I am no good at that as I managed to give him my actual number minus one digit. He called me lots and he was always talking about beautiful this and beautiful that, he almost sounded like a very strange modern day hippy. He didn’t want to go out and he didn’t want anything from me but I just found him uncomfortable to be around and he used to call me on different numbers after disappearing a couple of times. He then disappeared and I didn’t from him again- or will I?

They just don’t get it

No matter what you tell someone they refuse to believe you or they are in a complete bubble of their own where they only let in what they want to hear from you. Complete denial.

My Experience

I remember sitting in¬† the library reading a book while I waited for mum’s class to finish and¬† a guy walked in on the phone and in a rush. He eventually got off the phone and stood in front of the table I was sitting at facing elsewhere. He then asked me for the time and then continued standing. I was trying to read and it was really distracting that he was standing there. I assumed he was waiting for someone and asked him if he wanted to sit thinking the other tables were full. I thought it would be rude not to talk so we had a conversation. The sun was in his face so he moved from sitting opposite me to next to me. He tried to compliment me and wanted to be friends. He was looking at my watch and ring and said he liked them. Both the watch and the ring were gifts from my Special Someone and I said so. He then asked me if I had a boyfriend and I said I did, the same guy who gave me the gifts. He wanted my number to go out sometime. I assumed he meant as friends as like I previously said I was in a relationship. That wasn’t it. He still didn’t understand that when you have a boyfriend you don’t date other guys. I’m not dating I am in a¬†committed relationship.¬†It was time for me to go so I got up to leave and he decided to go too. I asked him if the person he was waiting for had come and he said he wasn’t waiting for anyone. Strange!

Mr. Looking for a wife

If you haven’t experienced this you will, especially if you are Indian.I have noticed that it is generally Asian men that approach girls with the intention of picking you up.

My Experience

Coming home from work there was an issue with the buses so I was going to get a different bus which would take me halfway then get my parents to pick me up from there. I wasn’t entirely sure where the bus would stop having never taken that bus before, so when it stopped and a lot of people were getting off, I assumed it was just a popular stop, as it was close to the train station. I saw a man (middle aged with a very strange accent definitely on a wife hunt)¬†nearby so asked him if this was the last stop for this bus and he said yes. It was a little darker then normal as it was winter time so I couldn’t really tell where I was. The man was walking nearby and I worked out where I was, so I dug out my phone to call my parents to let them know I arrived in town. The man was still walking nearby and started asking me questions. If I was single, where I was going, was anyone meeting me and I tried to be nice but avoid him at the same time but it wasn’t working. Also my¬†parents weren’t answering my phone calls¬†so I was starting to get worried :0( I managed to find a corner shop to escape and he didn’t follow me. I managed to get through to my dad and I tried to leave the shop. I quickly started walking and I passed that man again but I don’t think he recognised me but I quickly crossed the road and left.

I know what you may be thinking and I agree, sometimes I just invite trouble and attract the weirdoes. Please share your experiences below, I am sure there are many different situations.

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Peeing while on the phone?!

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This post is a bit of a strange one, mostly because of the title but it’s ok ūüėÄ

I decided that we are in a place where we can be a bit more comfortable with one another and the title of this post is an example of that aswell as an example of how comfortable my Special Someone is ūüėÄ

The other day I was on the phone to my Special Someone and half way through he decided to use the bathroom, need I say more!;-) Although it was funny, odd and maybe a little gross, it did make me think about stuff. How close can you be with someone, that you are comfortable to do anything with them, in front of them or for them.

With me and my Special Someone I’d say we are pretty comfortable¬†with lots of things although I still have a hint of shyness which would lead to embarrassment but generally we pretty good. We have used the same towel, drank from the same bottle, shared a tooth brush, changed in front of each other, borrowed clothes, have groomed each other( I have got the old tweezers out once or twice and even done a manicure-minus the polish), helped each other dress, picked flaky skin(I know it sounds gross) pulled out splinters, talked about periods, bought bedding, gone grocery shopping, cooked a meal together, fed each other with hands (no cutlery),¬†cleaned (I sometimes do a quick vacuum at his place), kissed with morning breath (plus beer breath, his not mine), have had morning cuddles (woken up together all smelly and sweaty but still want to have a cuddle)¬†peed¬†(in the toilet- not in the bath in case you wondering)while the other was in the shower(we could never poop in the same room that’s a bit too weird), performed (I once did a little dance routine for his birthday)farted in front of each other (it is a regular thing with him- he just has a thing for eating boiled cabbage ;0))¬†Etc.. I’m sure there is more but¬†that’ll do for now ūüėÄ

Being able to let go, be your self and being comfortable enough to share things with your boyfriend/girlfriend/partner is a very good thing. Never feel like you should hide things, I know we wanna all appear modest and mysterious but once you have been together awhile it is kind of hard to keep up appearances. Better to just be happy and comfortable ūüėÄ

Let me know in the comments what sort of things you are comfortable to do in front of your Special Someone. 

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Lovers Tiff!: Be Nice! ;0)

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Quite a while back when I first started blogging I made two posts called Lovers Tiff! and now I am making part three ūüėÄ

To see the first and second part please click the links below:

https://thesweetestpartsoflove.wordpress.com/2014/06/18/lovers-tiff-think-positive

https://thesweetestpartsoflove.wordpress.com/2014/06/19/lovers-tiff-behaving-like-childrenF

For this post I think I will make be making it very simple. 

What you shouldn’t say¬†¬†¬†¬†¬†¬†¬†¬†¬†¬†¬†¬†¬†¬†¬†¬†¬†¬†¬†¬†¬†¬†¬†¬†¬†¬†¬†¬†¬†¬†¬†¬†¬†¬†¬†¬†¬†¬†¬†¬†¬†¬†¬†¬†¬†¬†¬†¬†¬†¬†¬†¬†¬†¬†¬†¬†¬†¬†¬†What may be more appropriate¬†

  • I’m fine!¬†¬†¬†¬†¬†¬†¬†¬†¬†¬†¬†¬†¬†¬†¬†¬†¬†¬† ¬†¬†¬†¬†¬†¬†¬†¬† I’m not ok and I would like to talk about what happened, but I know you might not want to

  • What is wrong with you?!¬†¬†¬†¬†¬†¬†¬†¬†¬†¬†¬†¬†¬†¬†¬†¬†¬†¬†¬†¬†¬†¬†¬†¬†¬†¬†¬†¬†¬†¬†¬†¬†¬†¬†¬†¬†¬†¬†¬†¬†¬†¬†Is everything alright? You are not your usual self

  • We need to talk¬†¬†¬†¬†¬†¬†¬†¬†¬†¬†¬†¬†¬†¬†¬†¬†¬†¬†¬†¬†¬†¬†¬†¬†¬†¬†¬†¬†¬†¬†¬†¬†¬†¬†¬†¬†¬†¬†¬†¬†¬†¬†¬†¬†¬†There have been some things¬† that have been¬†bothering me.¬†I would like it if we could talk about those things

  • Why can’t you be more supportive?¬†¬†¬†¬†¬†¬†¬†¬†¬†¬†¬† ¬†I feel¬†like I’m not getting the right support from you

  • You never listen to me!¬†¬†¬†¬†¬†¬†¬† I feel like you are ignoring me as I have to keep¬†repeating¬†myself

  • I hate you!¬†¬†¬†¬†¬†¬†¬†¬†¬†¬†¬†¬†¬†¬†¬†¬†I think our relationship is¬†becoming a bit difficult for me

  • I can’t trust you¬†¬†¬†¬†¬†¬†¬†¬†¬†¬†¬†¬†¬†¬†¬†¬†¬†¬†¬†¬†¬†¬†¬†¬†¬†¬†¬†¬†¬†¬†¬†¬†¬†¬†¬† I just want you to know that I Love and¬†trust you just like I know that you Love and trust me to always be with you

  • Why can’t you just leave me alone! I would appreciate it if we could have sometime to¬†think. It does not mean our relationship is ending¬† I just need to be alone for a little while

  • You only think of yourself¬†¬†I’d like it if you tried to be understanding more ¬†of what I want too

  • You never want to do anything with me anymore Maybe we should try and do something different today

I am sure there are many others but hopefully this gives you an idea of what I mean by trying to be nice. I know you won’t always react this way first but do try and I’m sure you’ll be thinking the more nicer way in no time. You will be surprised in how much difference it will make when you have differences with your Special Someone.

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Fairy Tale Relationships

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For this post I thought I would kind of connect to the Honeymoon stage post but talk in a bit more detail. To see the Honeymoon stage post please click the link below :D:

https://thesweetestpartsoflove.wordpress.com/2015/07/21/honeymoon3

In my opinion¬†things can still be all sweet and nice for many years, as soon as you accept the fantasy¬†has ended and reality has begun. When people get into relationships, they generally expect a fairy tale as that is what is portrayed in films and books, but I will tell you that it is only half right. Yes, there are beautiful parts of being in a relationship but it doesn’t mean that it is always “okeydokey” (that’s just my word ;0) hunky dorey just don’t seem right) all the time and I don’t mean some wicked step mother coming in and handing out poisoned apples.

The main thing couples don’t realise is that things will change as time goes on¬†and I feel that¬†becomes a problem, especially¬†when you don’t acknowledge that those changes are normal. Something I can tell you about when things were serious and a bit routine-y¬†with me and my Special Someone, is that I could never tell my Special Someone what I wanted and what I was unhappy with. Our fairy tale was kind of ending and you would think I would be comfortable enough to tell him that the changes were making me feel a little insecure(just so you know I am not so insecure or even at all anymore ūüėÄ ) When it comes to relationships communication is always the key, if you are not happy then let your Loved one know, VERY important piece of advice( If you are worried about upsetting your boyfriend/girlfriend/partner try word your thoughts and feelings in a different and more nicer way then you would normally do, as sometimes¬†the way we first express our issues in relationships it¬†causes more offence then we realise)

Relationships and Love are beautiful things but they are not Disney movies and fantasies, they are real and what is real are all those things you may think no good relationship should have, but they do. Arguments, disagreements and problems will exist even if it’s not all three of those, expect something to happen(that is not being negative). Having problems in a relationship doesn’t mean it is bad, what makes it bad is how you handle those problems. Be prepared to¬†solve things, hold it together and still be nice. I have links of previous blog posts which will include how to solve problems or even prevent them,¬†¬†please click the links below:

https://thesweetestpartsoflove.wordpress.com/2014/06/18/lovers-tiff-think-positive/ ‚Äé

https://thesweetestpartsoflove.wordpress.com/2014/06/19/lovers-tiff-behaving-like-children

I hope you all get your Happy Ever After!;0)

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