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Insecurities: Insecurities and your relationships

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WARNING!: You will be told to click links 😀

I have linked up my blog post with links from previous blog posts that connect to this topic :D:D:D I’m nice like that! ;0)

Anyway……

Insecurities are something we have because of our self or even because of others. Trust even plays a big part in this. See link for my blog post on trust: (Link number 1:D )https://thesweetestpartsoflove.wordpress.com/2015/01/27/do-you-trust-me/

I have another link, please click this link to view the previous part of this post about your insecurities:(Link number 2:D)https://thesweetestpartsoflove.wordpress.com/2015/05/12/insecurities-you-and-your-insecurities

Insecurities in a relationship can cause problems. Looking back at the beginning of the relationship I’m in now, things were awkward. For one thing, I DID trust my Special Someone, but I just didn’t know why he was here, what he wanted and whether I was even good enough for anyone. I was a shy, awkward and quiet girl, things had changed slightly but certain parts of shyness and awkwardness still existed. There was lots of things I wasn’t happy about and being in a relationship highlighted those things. My insecurities existed so issues within the relationship existed too. I felt that things were going wrong because of me, tears, anger and cutting off phone calls were amongst all the fun and romantic times within the honeymoon stage of our relationship.

When it comes to relationships there really shouldn’t be any insecurities. You  should have learnt to Love yourself, moved on from previous relationships, been single for a while etc. Please click link to see my blog post on being ready for a relationship: (Link number 3:D)https://thesweetestpartsoflove.wordpress.com/2014/09/07/are-you-ready-for-a-relationship 

Once you are ready for a relationship things will be a bit better (note the words a bit better, it does not mean there won’t ever be issues in your relationship) When you are constantly putting yourself down and telling the person you are with that they shouldn’t be with you and that they deserve someone better and that person has to constantly reassure you, that you are wonderful and that they Love you loads and won’t want anyone else, well… eventually they will get fed up and want out. Never put yourself down in front of a potential life partner/boyfriend/girlfriend you won’t be winning any brownie points, know your worth. Imagine if you were the one constantly reassuring and the other person was being all awkward. You will do you best I’m sure but you will hate it eventually. How can you Love someone who doesn’t even like themselves. Take note and be good to yourself, your partner/boyfriend/girlfriend is lucky to have you, make them know it but without being big headed, it’s not attractive! ;0)

Confidence is something a lot of people should have but a lot of people lack. The only way to get through it is to fake it. Fake it that it becomes real. Believe in yourself and your abilities and that when it comes to relationships there are no doubts that your partner has chosen to be with you.

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Jealous?

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Jealous? Really? Oh dear!

Well what can I say, I don’t think I have ever been jealous, well except of the Furry Princess of all people ;0)

My experience of being jealous is abit silly but I will tell you anyway:-P Basically me and my Special Someone don’t live together and our Furry Princess lives with him. I was jealous that she could be with him all the time, they would see each other in the morning and cuddle in the evening (on the sofa, she isn’t allowed in the bedroom)So silly! She is our pet and I Love her to bits now and the jealousy is gone. Imagine that! Jealous of a dog!

The type of jealousy I am talking about is the one which includes Really like/Love relationships. Just started a new relationship and found out the person is best friends with their ex? Been out together and caught them looking at someone else? Well what i’m going to say next may or may not shock you but when you are feeling jealous don’t act on it! Don’t let yourself get upset or angry.

First things first, whatever happens keep it together. Next thing, think about the situation and what exactly is happening and if you should worry about it. After that let it go:-) Lastly, (?!) if it or something simular happens again and you are still feeling awkward and really don’t feel comfortable, well, now is the time to speak up and be honest. But (!!!!) be calm and let them know you have tried to deal with it, as you don’t want to be jealous, as you trust them and don’t want these feelings to ruin what you both have. Hopefully with some understanding and communication you can work something out:-).

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Insecurities: You and Your Insecurities

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I’m deciding to talk about two parts of insecurities. The first part is about your insecurities which I will talk about now and the second will be about your insecurities and your relationships.(in another blog post :D)

Learn to Love

Feeling insecure can start with you. What do you think of yourself? Do you like yourself? Do you feel confident and happy with your body? Sometimes we need to learn how to Love ourselves to lessen the negative thoughts and the insecurities. Starting with a list of things you like about you. Everyday write one thing you like, it can be anything. Keep going! I challenge you to get to 100:-D

Make the bad look good

I’m sure everyone has good qualities and things they should feel proud of so making sure you aren’t blind to them is the first step. The next step is to look at what you aren’t happy about, the things that make you feel insecure. Is it parts of your body? If so learn to embrace what you are, if you can’t, then try and do something to make you more confident and happier. If you think you can’t wear certain clothes because of your body shape, type etc. then I would suggest doing some research. In this day an age there is no piece of clothing that will reject you, you just need to find the right style to enhance your best features and hide what you think is your worst. If you are flat chested, with the right top you won’t even be able to tell you are or if you think your tummy sticks out the correct dress will make it look like you are “perfectly shaped” It is also the same with your facial features, even if you think your nose looks too big or you think you are too pale you can use makeup to enhance your best features(don’t just cake it on, that won’t look good and will make you feel more self conscious) Never ever do anything extreme to yourself if you are unhappy, surgery is not the answer.

Insecurities can also be from your personality itself. You could be a shy person lacking confidence in yourself or you could feel that you don’t belong in certain social situations. Whatever the insecurities are make sure that you don’t let them take over. These insecurities don’t own you, you own you. Do your best to overcome them. Look at life and tell yourself, this is the only life you are going to have and you will need to make the most of it. Missed opportunities will make you feel full of regret and you don’t want to regret not doing something because you lacked confidence. Personalities can’t be changed, there are some parts that will always be a part of you but you can change small things about you little by little. Do something a little out of the ordinary. Take your time but definitely take a step forward in building your confidence.

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Third Wheel…

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At some point in life you will find out what this is (if you don’t already!;-)) and (the worse part!) experience it too!

For this subject I have both an experience myself aswell as other peoples. Lets start off with my experience. To be honest there isn’t many. One couple (lets call them couple number one) it was awkward with, was when they had all these little inside jokes, mutual understandings and “little things” together it was enough to wonder why you were hanging out with couple in the first place when you are clearly the odd one out. They’d been together awhile, shared pets, lived together and had mutual friends, if all that isn’t third wheel enough how about sitting in the backseat of their car while they are holding hands in the front talking about all the above.

Couple number two, were again strange. Especially as one half of the couple kept asking questions about my being in a relationship and my culture. This couple did hold hands and walk together leaving me to walk alone behind. The odd thing was, even though I was the third wheel, I did get most of the attention from one half of the couple. The half I didn’t know and was meeting first time.

Now for the people I know experience. One person I knew, spent a good three years going on pretty much all the dates this couple had, simply because they couldn’t go out with out her being there :-/ I could never understand why, but one thing I definitely could understand was that she hated it. She even tried to run off half way through dates, only to have the couple call her a million times and try to get her to come back.

Being a third wheel could mean lots of things, but one thing I can be sure of is that I would never make anyone else be one. After all if it’s me and my Special Someone together, I wouldn’t really want anyone else to be there 😉

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