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Compromise to the Middle

Hi Hi!! 😀

Compromise. Well what can I say, it sounds so simple and sometimes it is. It’s just odd how you never think about it in the first place, when things get awkward and I don’t mean when you both want two different things for lunch and are reduced to coin tossing, but still aren’t happy (most likely me 0:))

Looking at past conversations, how things can get awkward and possibly be “going down hill” (as my Special Someone would call it) we always seem to deal with reactions and emotions first. Most reactions are to get upset, get off the phone (if we are having an awkward phone call) , get annoyed and leaving. Not exactly good stuff but it does happen and it can happen with lots of people.

One thing I have definitely noticed is that we start off by not directly telling each other how we feel about something at the time it happens or at the time of discussion and I think that may be the problem. A recent event started and ended quite quickly as we talked it through. It was one of the best conversations we have had. We talked it out in a simple question answer way or tell them in a way that does NOT offend in ANY way (if you do feel upset then tell them straight away and solve it, they will be understanding or if you have accidently hurt them then be understanding ;0))

“do you know when you say that it hurts….?”

“I’m sorry but sometimes you…. ”

“do you not like this..?”

“maybe if we try this…?

Anything like the above sort of sentence sounds about right. Straight to the point and very direct, as well as being gentle and nice 😀 

Just say what you mean and come to an agreement on what you both do and don’t like within a situation and you’ll be ok.

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Anniversary: Bigger, Better and more Special

Hi Hi!! 😀

Anniversaries always seem like one of those occasions that you feel like you need to top every year. It’s like a competition with yourself. “I need to find something really good” “It has to be better then last year” “I want to give something really special because I Love them So Much!”;-)

Me and my Special Someone have always tried to get a special gift for each other and make the day as nice as possible but as the years have gone by it has become alot harder. As we used all our special ideas on previous anniversaries, we our now realising there is a shortage of ideas for the future occasions. We are still trying to make an effort in getting something and having a meal but I think we are feeling that memories count more.

When it comes to gifts don’t worry about going all out. Trying to get a bigger or more expensive present may be what you want to do but think about what your partner actually likes even if it’s not very big compared to last year. They maybe alot happier if you got something ordinary and made it just that more special e.g. buying dinner at their favourite place to eat but having the VIP experience with out the other customers or even buying a film they like but getting the special edition on DVD or Blueray. Save your expensive stuff for milestone anniversaries. The ideas will come in handy for those 😉

On the day sometimes we feel like need to do so many things, sometimes I still feel we need to now but really we don’t. One important thing of that day is enough, whether it is a meal together, experiencing an outdoor activity or even your gifts. It’s all special and personal to you. This years anniversary I had really wanted it to be big and I was disappointed that it didn’t turn out like I thought,but the good stuff we had,means more then anything and those moments can’t be taken away and that is what counts more.

In my opinion just because it is made a bigger deal of it doesn’t automatically mean it’s better.

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Anniversary!!

Hey Hey!! 😀

Well I have good news 😀 Me and my Special Someone will be celebrating our 5th Anniversary very soon 😀 Yay!! So I thought on this occassion a little talk on Anniversaries would be nice 😉

Anniversaries mean another year of getting to know each other has passed, which hopefully means you are even closer then you were before. The Love you have for one another has increased and your relationship is in a better place 😀 I’m sure this special day plays a big part in your relationship 🙂

Anniversary vs Wedding Anniversary

When it comes to any relationship, i’m sure there comes a time when one kind of relationship is said to be more important then another. Which brings me to whether or not there is any point in celebrating a relationship, without a marriage.

When I had my first anniversary with my Special Someone,he told me that he thought anniversaries were only for married couples. I had a different view though. My view was just because we weren’t married it didn’t mean we couldn’t celebrate our Love and our relationship. I think he gets it now. Any excuse to celebrate right?! (or any excuse for cake! ;0))

Lets Celebrate them all!

Something I have noticed is that Anniversaries are just that AnniversarIES! Meaning it isn’t just one day a year which would be the traditional way of counting your time together, but people also include months (monthiversary), weeks (weekaversary) and days (maybe even hours if you crazy enough and have a good memory :-P)aswell as all the ‘firsts’ but does that lose all significance of a yearly celebration?

Me and my Special Someone have celebrated Anniversaries with cards, gifts, a meal out and a day devoted to spending time together. When it comes to the others I have mentioned above, we only do the monthiversary, but we don’t do anything except text or wish each other on the phone. I think having to remember them and do something would be a teeny bit stressful although it may seem like a sweet thing to do. I think we are happy with what we got as ideas are running thin, after all, we have been together ages! 😛

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You Noticed!!

Hey Hey!! 😀

I’m sure we have all seen and heard about a woman getting her hair done and asking her partner if they have noticed anything different. It’s always been used as part of comedy, as the partner never guesses correctly. How many of you can say it’s not true in real life? Well I for one can 🙂

At the beginning of any relationship I am sure you all paid special attention to every little thing your partner says and does, but if you haven’t it may be worth it to do so in future in both “old”and “new” relationships. In “old”relationships I guess you get too settled and may not think there is anything you don’t know but sometimes things change. People eventually want something different, to change something about themselves or do something and it’s important to notice these changes and be supportive and honest.

Me and my Special Someone do notice new things with each other, whether its a hair cut, clothes or even new objects we never seem to miss much. Since we started dating my Special Someone always looked at my earrings (i think half the time he was checking to see if I was wearing matching earrings and to be honest most of the time I wasn’t- yes, it was on purpose. I liked the idea of wearing two different earrings :-D)and the fact that he noticed made me feel good. Strange I know, but its true, even if I don’t know why. However I do know one reason 😀 When I started wearing nail polish and doing nail art I always listened out to what he said. If he made compliments on certain patterns or liked certain nail polish colours, I would keep it in mind to use on certain occasions, so when he notices I would feel like my effort with his likes were appreciated and well worth it.

If you made an effort to look nice or made an effort to do something special for your partner it would mean the world to you I am sure that they saw what you done and appreciated it not because it makes you feel good but because it makes them feel good:D

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2nd Best!

Hey Hey!! 😀

Do you deserve the best? ….

…..Of course you do!! 😀

When it comes to a lot of things in life, you should never compromise with what you really deserve. Especially when it comes to something as precious as Love.

Growing up I didn’t think much of my self. I always tried to be happy with what I had, as I never thought I was worth much more. When it came to dating I didn’t think anyone would like me and I was right as I had my first date at the age of 19. The guy was not right for me and I knew that but I accepted to meet with him because he had asked me and he seemed nice. Not the best attitude to dating at all. You don’t need to accept any guy or girl that comes along. It’s ok to say no, especially if you don’t like them 😉

Why should you settle for 2nd best? Don’t settle. Go out and get what you want and deserve (just don’t get big headed!;-)) A guy or girl who cares so much for you and who treats you well is someone you should welcome with open arms but at the same time remember who you are. Yes good things should come to you in a relationship but you need to be the best in return.

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