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New Addition!!- It’s a GIRL!

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This is what I Imagined our pup looked like as a young one as we received her at the age of one and she was much more adult dog size by then. (please note I have found this picture on google )

Hey Hey!!

Well I may not have a baby but I got something close…. a Furry Princess!!! 😀

Almost a year ago my boyfriend was up late saying he was thinking of getting a dog, I thought he was just sleepy or got bit tipsy after a couple of beers.

Next evening I called up my special someone for our daily chat. He told me that he was now a Daddy to a 1year old puppy!!…..(it’s a GIRL!:-D)

I’m not a fan of dogs, they have always scared me… but i’ve always loved animals.

My boyfriend had sent a photo and seeing this ickle big (<–i know that makes no sense, but if you ever see her you will know) creature fast asleep on the sofa I couldn’t think of any reason of what to be frightened of. The curled up body, the tightly shut eyes and big floppy ears was nothing but cuteness! (thats a word right?;-))

The following day we decided to do some essential doggy shopping. My special someone picked me up with the new addition in the car. I walked up to the car and could see the puppy one standing over my boyfriends lap looking out the window in the driver’s seat and my boyfriends face and hands in a ‘what can I do?’ way, I couldn’t help but smile 😀 Once I got into the front seat she automatically licked near my lip and sat on my lap and that was our first meeting…

I’ve always wanted children but I never thought about how they will effect my relationship. With our new Furry Princess alot of things have changed. There is constant door opening, attention giving, space squeezing (she likes to sit between me and my Special someone), play time, cuddles on laps, licking (&washing hands) and general crazyness. Its different how we used to spend an entire day alone and now only a few hours as we spend time as the three of us together. Its crazy to have the front door open to an over excited dog greeting me and my boyfriend having to get his hello and hug after the little one is done, whereas we would get our hug first.

“Our relationship comes first” like my boyfriend says the Furry Princess is a part of our relationship, an addition, not the relation. Your relationship shouldn’t change because a baby (whether human or animal;-)) comes into it, you and your partner are the foundation, the rest of your relationship is only important if you don’t crumble.

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X x x

P.S. Inspite of all the changes within the last year I wouldn’t change a thing, our Furry Princess is a big part of our lives and always will be. We Love her loads and she is defo one of “the fam!” 😀

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Working relationship (partners and jobs)

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I recently found a job after searching for almost two years ( I wasn’t lazy just hard to get a job nowadays. Last job I had I was let go as they couldn’t afford to pay me anymore. Interviews I had were mostly, “well we really liked you but we gave the job to someone else”… makes no sense right? Anyway…) and things are definitely different.

The last job I had me and my other half were both working and our relationship never suffered. Now I have work and my boyfriend doesn’t and it feels like a whole new world. I miss him all the time, I worry when we will next meet and I constantly want to talk to him. Strange no?   

Going to work makes the days seem longer then they are, whereas having lots of free time used to go quick and felt like I had already seen him yesterday as we texted randomly in the day, had a phone call in the evening and met once a week. Now I don’t text during the day unless I actually have something important to say, we still have our call in the evening and our once a week meet feels like a month gap in between :O.

The good thing about not having the same free time all the time is that we now have more time to focus on our individual lives and not be stuck together (well to be honest we never were one of those couples). Going to work has helped me meet more people, talk to different people and go out on my own more. Also I now have money to actually pay for my half when we go out, buy my boyfriend dinner on special occasions and save up for the future, All good good things 😀

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X x x

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Lovers Tiff!: The Silent Treatment

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More evilness! The silent treatment. Well what can I say, this is one thing that I have personally made my boyfriend experience myself, only for a day 😀 (it may last just the one day but that day has come many times over the years). Bad girl!! you must be thinking but when you think about it, silent treatments can be misunderstood. There could be good intentions and evil intentions. Mine of course are good O:)

In my view and in my own personal experience the number one reason to give someone the silent treatment is being upset. Anger follows next and the last reason is “I want to tell you something but I don’t want to make things worse”. Looking at the reasons I have chosen, all of them are very innocent and human and if not given to the boyfriend/ girlfriend/partner, then it could make them very frustrated, annoyed and even angry. Your intentions are good but not when your other half doesn’t understand, so sometimes (or maybe all the time) it’s not the best answer to be giving the silent treatment in awkward situations.

I have been trying not to do the silent treatment as I know it doesn’t make things better, I have succeeded a few situations but am still working on not being quiet. As always communication is key as well as the need to express yourself and your feelings.
Never keep important things to yourself.

I honestly think the best thing is no silent treatment unless they really deserve it 😉

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Online Dating!: My experience

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Dating online was something people were really unsure of, even if they were just making friends, but now it’s a bit of a trend to meet your boyfriend or girlfriend online. People have even found the person they marry! :-S (I have attended several weddings where the bride and groom have met off marriage websites, such as Shaadi.com)

I decided to share with you my experience and thoughts of people on the internet as I gained a lot of experience when I was just 19years old. I’m not going to lie and make it all glamorous, like some kind of “you’ve got mail” movie, as you do need to keep safe. There are some strange people out there…

At the age of 19 I was very sensitive, innocent and naive. My first boyfriend I met on the internet (as friends, then turned in to a relationship) was 5years older then me and very different from me, he enjoyed a drink and used to end up waking in random places with a hang over. His life was unusual and he had quite a hot temper. Not exactly the best material for a first boyfriend but I think it really was an experience for me, to realise that just because someone accepts you and says they like you it doesn’t mean you lose respect for your self, have everything that persons way or even do things without expecting things in return (I know people always say Love unconditionally and Love is self less but in my view it means don’t have high expectations, expecting a thank you after giving someone a lift or getting a present on your birthday when you have got them something too is a given and is completely acceptable. It should be fair and equal. Expect something)

This boyfriend was very secretive about his life and never let me talk to his family properly. We never met halfway, it was always at his house (i should mention we were friends for a few months first and when we met it was in a public place, i would never suggest meeting at their house when you don’t know them properly. Also our friendship was based on fun coversations so I never knew details bout his life)and he would always collect me and take me different routes so I was never able to go to his place on my own as I didn’t know the way. When we were together we would just watch day time telly, I would always ask to go places together but he always said no. At some point during our “relationship” he said he thought we should be friends but never discussed anything properly and never confirmed we weren’t together so I was strung along for two weeks trying to call, message and text and I was ignored. Finally managed to talk and then meet up. He asked for something that I felt wasn’t right in this stage of our relationship so I ended the relationship on the phone, as I didn’t know how to get to his house and was worried about what could happen as he has a hot temper.

The next day of breaking up I tried to get back together and found out he was with someone else. I’m glad I ended it when I did. I did find out other things about this boyfriend which made me think I made the right decision. He wasn’t a good person, he wasn’t right for me and would never respect me or appreciate everything I did for him.

There were other people I dated who never got to the boyfriend stage. There was one person who was always considered my friend and he was always willing to talk to me. He was part of some band’s staff and was always touring so we never got to meet in person. But one day I think it got too much for him that I didn’t realise his true intentions, as he turned around and texted me that he just wanted to have a “physical relationship” and was tired of dealing with my problems. I told him to leave me alone and blocked and deleted his number and any social networks we were on. Was very unexpected and just goes to show sometimes when you see someone as a friend and only a friend it’s kind of hard to notice what the other person may be thinking. I never heard from him again.

Another “friend” actually started off a woman strangely enough. I had started talking on myspace with this girl and she used to talk about this boyfriend of  hers and then one day she got him to add me  there as well and we started talking, he eventually said that he broke up with that girl and said he had another girlfriend and the original girl I was talking to stopped talking to me. After awhile he said the girlfriend had gone off with someone else and was alone. He started telling me that he liked me and wanted to be more then friends. We met up as friends and I showed him around the city where I lived, as he didn’t live close to me. Near the end of the day he asked me for a kiss. I didn’t know what to say to him and it was time to leave, the whole train ride home I didn’t talk to him. I dropped him to his car and then gave in to kissing him as I felt lonely (my first boyfriend and I hadn’t ended more the 6 months before) and I tried to make myself like him as more then a friend. We met a second time but this time at where he lived. After a couple of months he sent an email and told me he was going back to his ex, we stayed friends. I was on msn and ended up speaking to the girlfriend and all the truth came out. She didn’t know anything about what I had told her and what she said to me I had no clue. Turns out he had played the first girlfriend all along and had used all the stories with the second girlfriend. He had stopped using his fake girl account once he got talking to me. He has a strange habit of going around online and pretending to be with girls and he also had a thing for group physical relations. Out of all the people I had known online he was the definitely the strangest.

 

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X x x