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Secrets!!

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In a romantic relationship everyone has different rules in keeping secrets from their partner. It is one of those sensitive topics, where I really feel you both need to be on the same page. This is one of those things, that even though you may you have good intentions in keeping things from your partner, you may be causing more harm then good and could result in problems that will effect your relationship.

Whatever comes up in your relationship, really think about the pros and cons of what you are thinking of keeping to yourself. Also think about if they were in your position, would you want them to tell YOU what was going on? If so then shouldn’t it be the same for them? 😀

No secret is worth your relationship, always be open and honest with each other. Me and my boyfriend always keep each other up to date with what is going on, whether it’s our separate lives or to do with us both. I’ve always felt it was important for us to do so.

Share everything…except surprises!!!:D Everyone Loves surprises once in a while! 😀

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Taken By Love: Faking Love (Not The Physical Kind)

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Relationships most of the time seem to have been all in the name of spontaneity, whirlwind romances and people being swept off their feet in the blink of an eye. One thing that we all seem to think about last is being practical.

In this post I will be discussing forced relationships. By this I don’t mean anything like forced marriages or anything like that, what I mean is making yourself like someone, pretending to Love someone and forcing yourself to accept a relationship just because you feel like you may not find someone else, you feel lonely or you just want a relationship with which ever person walks through the door.

This has happened to me. At some point in my life, my friends were off busy in uni and I was working part time where I wasn’t able to make friends. I’d been on dates before but only one went into a relationship and it didn’t even last that long. I wanted someone to be there for me, who’d appreciate me, support me and would want to be around me all the time and in my head a boyfriend seemed to fit that description.

A lot of people have a type of girl or guy they go for when they are dating… I didn’t. As long as they were nice that’s all that mattered to me, so accepting someone who clearly wasn’t right for me in many ways was easy. But one thing I didn’t realise was that sometimes when you feel desperate for affection and company you might even force it to be something it isn’t, especially on your end.

I started speaking to someone i’m pretty sure didn’t have anything in common with me, they lived far and was said to have come out of a relationship not long before. He wanted to go out with me and when we met up as friends he asked to kiss me and I thought way too much about my answer and in the end I just said yes.

I felt like I was getting what I wanted, someone to talk to everyday, someone to be in relationship with and someone who would be there for me when I needed them but…. I didn’t like them. I made myself feel like I was in Love, that we were boyfriend and girlfriend and that we would have a future when really I didn’t fancy him, I hated that he smelt like smoke and that I could never pinpoint what was good about him.

In the end things changed as his ex came back and yeah, I felt odd but I wasn’t upset and that told me everything I needed to know. The fact that he decided to go back to his previous girlfriend should have been hard for me, but it was easy to move on and I think it was for the best. Maybe it was infatuation, but for one thing it was wrong. Never force yourself to like anyone just because you are lonely, even though we weren’t in a relationship it still doesn’t make it ok. You play with their feelings as well as your own and you will never know true Love if you have to fake it.

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Taken By Love: We Are All Different

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Relationships most of the time seem to have been all in the name of spontaneity, whirlwind romance and people being swept off their feet in the blink of an eye. One thing that we all seem to think about last is being practical.

Today I thought I would discuss the difference in the PEOPLE in relationships, by this I mean lots of things, like people’s religions, what race they are, the type of class they are in and the beliefs they have (there are so much more and I could go on but I’m sure you get the picture ;0))

In my view I don’t think the differences matter. I have personally had dates and relationships with guys who are nothing like me and that in itself never caused problems (well the differences didn’t but them as a person did ;0)).

Lots of people are comfortable with their own people and that’s fair enough, whether they are insecure being in a relationship like that or just find it less complicated to be with someone the same as them but it doesn’t mean you have to do the same. That’s something that you should remember, if you like someone and they are different that is ok, like them, be in a relationship with them and be happy, but don’t try to purposely look out for someone the same as you to make your friends and family happy, as you are the one in this relationship not them.

In my relationship we have many differences religion, beliefs and culture and to be honest it makes our relationship better, it’s more interesting to learn about each other everyday from what we think about, how religious or not religious we are, how we were brought up and anything else there is. In my view I don’t think we have problems with our differences it just enhances our relationship.

Being practical all the time can be exhausting  and I think it’s more fun to go with the flow. Who ever you end up with be happy, enjoy each others differences and live life! 😀

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High School Sweethearts :D

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In High School it may have seemed the most important thing in the world to have what some would now call a childhood sweetheart (well if you were way past high school)

Through out  my entire High School experience I never had a boyfriend…

… and I lived through it! No big deal what so ever 😀

I actually had my first boyfriend when I was 19years old (no he was not imaginary :D) and starting my first job. Even though that wasn’t my personal decision, I am actually glad I didn’t have a relationship inn high school because of all the experiences I saw around me.

Number 1- Big Distraction!!

My experience- Looking back at the experience I had when I had my first boyfriend even at the age of 19 all I wanted to do was keep calling, texting and meeting up, I thought that person was the centre of my world.

The problem- There’s always going to be a time when you are thinking about them, what they are doing, are they thinking about you etc. and you will find it to concentrate on your studies.

The possible solution- School may not be important to you right now but it will mean more to you when you leave, yes give the boyfriend/girlfriend importance but not over your school work. Learn to juggle!! ;0)

Number 2- Friends or Your Lover

My experience- One friend I had used to spend break time with her boyfriend and lunch with her friends but once she started university she broke up with him so I don’t know if she is the best example.

The problem- As you all know, at school you get a 20min break and an hour lunch (well for most of you) and you may choose to be with your boyfriend/girlfriend for break and lunch or even both as well as to walk home with and at the beginning your friends may view it as being cute but when they realise they hardly see you they will slowly start hating you for it. 

Possible solution- When you start high school you start off making friends and they would have been with you a little while at least before you get yourself a boyfriend/girlfriend and you shouldn’t forget that. This is the part where the juggling your life comes in again but this time with your social life. Try keep everyone happy 😀

Number 3= Gifts!!

My experience- I remember one girl in my Science class spending £40 on a bracelet for her boyfriend’s birthday. Looking back she can’t have been more then 13-14years old. I remember seeing it, it was one of them really chunky silver chain type bracelets, he wore it everyday so I guess it was worth it but within the next couple of months he went off with another girl… :O

The problem- having a boyfriend/girlfriend you will feel like you have to buy things for every occasion that comes round, whether its their birthday, Valentines Day, Christmas etc. and there’s nothing wrong with that but when you are a teenage you kind of want something really out of this world to prove that your boyfriend or girlfriend is the best and that normally means expensive. 

Number 4- Everybody’s Business

My experience- There was one particular girl I remember quite well who was in a few of my classes. She started dating a guy in the 2nd year of high school and then moved through pretty much all the guys within a group of friends. I think I can remember pretty much every guy she went out with and I never understood what was so great about this girl that everyone wanted to date her even though their friends had dated her previously too :S

The problem- This one is pretty obvious, high school is like a very small community village. Everyone knows who everyone is even if they don’t talk to them all, they know what is going on in other peoples lives especially if you are in a relationship. Relationships are the biggest topics of gossip in high school and if you are prepared to have you and your other half talked about, then Good Luck! 

Number 5- Short term and On and off

My experience- The last two years of high school was like some sort of love fest. People were opening up to each other about fancying each other and Loving each other all because prom was coming up. Some couples made it to prom but broke up after and others broke up before prom came. All these relationships hyped up really quick and then ended almost as soon as they had begun. There were also some people who used to break up and get back together every time a fight came round or when they were lonely.

The problem- Having relationships in high school means you will have to deal with them being very short lived or deal with heartbreak every time you have a fight and break up.  That ones a mystery!

Share Your Thoughts! 😀

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P.S The reason I haven’t put up solutions is because I’m hoping you will work it out but If you would like the solutions to what I have put above let me know:D Any excuse for another post ;0)

P.P.S the High School Musical picture… well I have no explanation for but figured I’m talking about high school and musicals always make things better:D

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Appreciation

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Just a quick message for ya!

I want you all to turn to a Loved one and let them know how much you appreciate them and how much they mean to you. It will truly make their day, just like it made mine.

I Love You both 😀 you know who you are ❤

X x x

P.S To the rest of you I appreciate you reading my blogs and I hope I will be able to provide more things for your interest. Thank YOU! 😀 xxx

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