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Dealing with the After Date Stuff

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First dates, well I’ve had a few, which pretty much stayed as the one and only first date, but it doesn’t always have to mean a bad thing.

One thing I definitely learned, was that they really shouldn’t be seen as such a serious thing. I always took every single first seriously taking it in as almost a life changing decision, a marriage proposal and even a one and only chance to be with someone. How very wrong I was.

When you meet someone new in the form of a date don’t view it as one, just view it as meeting a new friend. All you’ve done so far is liked their appearance or felt like they gave a good impression of themselves. That doesn’t mean you need to follow a bunch of rules and try and get them to be your boyfriend or girlfriend, as you haven’t got a chance to find out if you really have a connection and that may not happen on the first date.

Some people view it as a bad rejection if they go on a date and there is no chance of a kiss or a second date or even interest then being more then friends. It’s important to look at things differently. You met someone new you had a good time 😀 (well hopefully you should have had fun 😉 )

Now for the awkward stuff or the crazy ideas. Should I call them or should I wait for them to call. Mind games and play by the rules dates are a bit surreal they don’t always work for everyone. I’m sure we have all read books where the heroine has a group of friends, one does everything she can to pick up a guy, one does the whole “treat them mean keep them keen” type of thing but when they try out each others ideas it just doesn’t seem to work them same way…..

In my view it’s best to just do what you want. If you feel like this person can’t be viewed as more then a friend then let them know, “I had a great time, but I think we would have more fun being friends” or if you can see yourself dating them, again let them know, “It was nice meeting you, I would like to go out again” or if you really don’t think this person is someone you can be friends with or even date then well I’ll just leave that one to you ;0) 

I don’t think there is anything that is too soon to talk about or do and I don’t think there is anything that will make you look desperate. Don’t take things too seriously but if they feel like they are then don’t hold back. Be honest and open because in the end it will be you that loses out, maybe even have regrets because you followed a friend’s dating rules . I will now attach a little video to maybe illustrate my point in the form of the Sims and Avril Lavigne :D:D Well even if it doesn’t I still like this video and song :0P

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=K0RK_iucZjw

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First Date Tips!

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My first ever date I had, I clearly remember today. I was 19, a bucket of nerves and talked non stop about my entire life, until that very day. I also talked about lemon shaped bread and thought it would be funny to try and shove my date in the pond. Lucky for me I didn’t come off too odd and was asked for a second meet, but unlucky for the date I saw him as a friend only :O

First up! The rules. Before you say anything no it’s not something weird about how late to show up, when to make them jeolous or anything crazy like that. Mind games are not good. These rules, are my safety tips.

First: Take your phone with you. (Not that any of you would leave that behind)

Second: Meet in a PUBLIC place. Never invite them to pick you up at home.

Third: Tell someone. Make sure someone knows where you are going and who you are going with as well as what time you are leaving and when you will come home

Fourth: this may be optional but it sometimes is a good idea to give a friend your date’s number for emergencies.

Fifth: If you are going out of an evening you may want to be careful with the amount of alcohol drinks you consume. Just in case! ;0)

Well that’s the boring stuff out the way, now for some even more boring stuff 😀

Where to go?

In my view I think first dates should be where you can actually talk to each other or do something that can make sure you have fun together.  Going to the cinema has been a popular choice for some but I only think that’s a good idea if you plan to go elsewhere after to maybe share your thoughts on the film.

  • Going out for a meal (not a fancy restaurant!!) or a drink any old place will do, if your date really likes you they won’t mind 😀
  • Going to the park/ for a walk  it’s nice to experience nature together, think it brings people closer 😀
  • Do activities together. Go to the museum, go to the arcade etc. 😀Most of my first dates were in chain restaurants (nothing wrong in that :-)) but other places have been at parks, drives and coffee places. I liked these as they weren’t serious date places and it almost felt like i was just meeting a new friend. My first ever date was at Nandos (where you get lemon shaped bread) and then after we went to the park(where i tried to shove the boy in the pond ;-))

What to wear?

There is no dress code (sorry :-()People do like to say “it’s better to be over dressed then under dressed” but in my view a man in a suit with flowers/ a girl in a expensive dress and tons of makeup on a first date would be bit overwhelming even though it seems really romantic looking in a book or film. I’d rather both me and my date were comfortable so i’d go with casual smart. You come off less high maintenance and more approachable. But everyone is different and you should wear what you like and feel comfortable in, while still being true to you. I’m sure we would all like to wear a nice fitting dress and a pair of high heels but if you are conscious of your tummy and can’t walk in the shoes, why bother with the extra stress just because you “think” your date would like it. Don’t make things more complicated. Save those things for when you are more confident.

On my first ever date i wore a t-shirt, jeans, cardi and converse flats. My friend straightened my hair and put eyeshadow and other make up-y stuff on. I don’t wear make up and i’m not a fan of straight hair so that was a one time thing. Other first dates were the same minus straight hair, make up, (i’m a strictly moisturiser, nail polish and tinted lipbalm kind of girl ;-)) and the converse flats (they smell rubber-y in the summer)

What to do?

Going on dates is meant to be fun and yes it’s a cliché but it is important to be yourself and only yourself and not to stress!!! Talk about good things only, no ex partners how much you hate work/school or things like that. Your interests, their interests and ask One rule here for you don’t make it seem like an interview!!!

My first ever date i mentioned above. The other first dates were more normal except for the one where i tried to mother him :-S

Anyway i hope this helps 😀

Good Luck!!! ❤

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Special Someones Birthday!!

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It’s that time of year again 😀 

Birthdays! You either Love them or hate them. But when it’s a special persons you will always Love them.  

My Special One’s Special Day is on its way and its time to start thinking about what to do and give. As I was thinking about this I thought I would share some of my ideas with you.

Card!

Cards are usually thought to be the easiest things to buy for a birthday compared to the present, but when it comes to that special someone, you may need to stand alittle longer at the card shop to find the perfect card.

I’ve always got my cards online, I think it looks nice when a card is all in print 😀  Having it personalised with their name/nickname on the front and having a very looong personal essay just for them inside 😀

These are the websites I have used before:

http://www.zazzle.co.uk/custom/greeting+cards

Zazzle is quite good for making a card completely from scratch. I have enjoyed picking out a particular cover and message to put on my card. 

http://www.moonpig.com/uk/

Moonpig has lots of different cards that you can personalise the front of and add your personal message inside.

Another idea I think is a really nice is to be a little bit creative and make your own card.  This is a cheap but very thoughtful and sweet way of putting your birthday wishes and personal messages in. The best thing is that you can make it out of whatever you want and put what ever you want on it and in it.

Presents!

Everyone thinks presents are very hard to buy, especially for certain people. But I like to think that anything goes and as long as you know that they will like it and you have put thought and effort in, it’s all good good 😀

In the past I’ve tried to make my presents and they have normally gone down well. The effort that goes into them is always appreciated. If you have any skills or talents use them in a gift.Handmade gifts are a nice touch to any birthday no matter the age. I might think about trying to make something again.

Sometimes birthdays are an opportunity to be romantic, I’m not sure if I will go down that route as I’m not sure I’ve done it before but it seems like a sweet thing to do. Maybe use flowers and food… something to think about maybe. 

There is also an opportunity to be random which I have done many times before and that is getting something that has no meaning at all. A rubber chicken is something I have actually received and even though it has no sentimental value I carry it with me where ever I go ;0)

When you really are clueless just getting a gift with their name on it seems to work pretty good.

http://www.gettingpersonal.co.uk/

Getting personal I’ve used a couple of times before and again like I said, names on stuff, everyone likes that right?! 😀

What to do?

Sometimes the rest of the day needs something to make it a bit more special. Maybe go the traditional birthday route and buy a cake and balloons and yes I have done that before and no matter the age it always brings a smile to their face maybe even a tear or  two ;0) 

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